Friend abroad ignored my message about coronavirus

[Stayingin91]

Have a friend who's currently in Australia teaching, but she's from the UK, and I read that travel bans are now in place there, so wanted to check she was OK.
I haven't spoken to her in ages but messaged to see if she was alright and if her family back here were, given the current circumstances.

Anyway, the message has been read and no reply. It's been 3 days and she's posting stuff on Facebook so can't be that 'busy' to send a quick reply.

I'm really hoping she just forgot, because in this sort of situation, if someone took the time to check I was OK, i'd think that was incredibly rude to not even reply no matter who it was, anyone else ?

I wouldn't be as bothered in everyday situations.

did you mean to type 30 messages a day instead?! If not I'm intrigued as to why you would receive that many messages daily!!

In my old job we used whatsapp for work. We also have a whatsapp group for parents in DD's year, which can get a hundreds of messages if there's something controversial, a church group, a group chat with friends, as well as individual messages. I sometimes get over 300 messages a day.

No, about 300 was correct @Butterfly98
I don't like it all but I'm in so many groups (eg dd1 class, dd2 Class, my hockey friends, dd1 football team, dd2 ballet group comps etc etc)

In Australia people don’t really have the same feeling or need feed. She doesn’t know how serious it is.

@arethereanyleftatall sorry I thought you meant separate messages not groups which I know add up to a lot during the day! I think I need a good nights sleep!!!! 💤 😴

Eh Manchester? I’m in Australia and we know exactly how serious this is!

She may be confused and forgetful with the stress. I doubt that it's a deliberate snub.

FFS are you 12?! She has bigger things going on. This is 100% about your ego, not her wellbeing. Sit down!

She may have forgotten or is mindful of the time difference... maybe she read the message and was interrupted before replying....
Seems desperately needy to demand/expect a response at this time- guessing teachers are getting slammed dealing with parents queries, kids anxieties etc etc
Also 🙄 At Australians not knowing how serious this is... always got to be one wanker ready to slate a whole population with their shit opinion

Ignore her back
See how that works out.
If she doesn’t get back in touch
Then you will know.

Manchester I’m in Australia too, and that’s rubbish, we’re about two weeks behind the rest of the world and thanks to that we’re perfectly aware of what’s coming, it’s going to be a sh*t show.

She's posting on facebook so you already know she's ok. So why get all bent out of shape cos she didn't respond? this is about you not her.

You don't trust her. Generally, if someone you care about doesn't respond, you'd try again, because you care whether or not they're OK.

Do you care whether or not she's ok? Because it seems like you'd rather be pissed off with her. What if she's in a bit of a mess and doesn't know how to respond? What if, in all the confusion, she thinks she has responded, and is wondering why she's not heard back from you? What if she's accidentally responded to the wrong person?

You're not cutting her much slack. You'd rather assume she's being rude than ask twice. I'd let the friendship drop. For her sake.

Ffs message her it’s not hard, if she doesn’t reply. She’s not interested . More important things to think about surely

Maybe she’s just ignoring you and doesn’t want to reply?

FFS grow up. There are plenty of reasons why getting round to answering your vague bland message has not been the top priority task she has had to do.

My DH has friends in Italy, they didn’t message back for a few days despite reading DH’s concerned message but he accepted they have a lot to deal with right now.

Your friend is busy and probably stressed out.

OP I don’t think you’re being unreasonable. That would annoy me too. I think most people would have time to respond to a friend’s messages. I generally find I have certain friends who respond to messages quickly and others who take days and I sometimes have to text again before I get a reply. I find it’s more about them or even our friendship than what’s going on in their lives or how busy they are. I have started making less effort to text those who don’t bother to get in touch with me.

Do you have anxiety OP?