Elderly neighbour had a house full of kids

[Brooksey5]

We’ve been getting food for our elderly neighbour who have stopped going out as they’re being careful.

Our food delivery didn’t come with anything that we’d ordered for them so we gave them some food/milk that we had for ourselves with the idea that we’ll go shopping tomorrow morning (at risk to us) to get some more.

We just dropped it round to find that they have a houseful of grandkids 🙄

I’m a bit miffed that we’ve put ourselves out and they really aren’t being careful at all. AIBU?

Yanbu
But you know now that they have access to support so you don't need to help them anymore.
I know it's nice to help people but don't bother again.
Did you offer or did they ask?
To be fair, even accepting help is cheeky when family are visiting anyway.

We offered and they said their family lived 70+ miles away so they were grateful for all they help they could get. Guess I won’t offer again unless they ask specifically.

The GC didn't get to their house all by themselves did they? No, YANBU at all.

Glad the general consensus is that I shouldn’t feel bad for being annoyed. Wasn’t sure if I was getting a bit over protective about food 😬

Did you hand over the shopping when you saw the children? Or was it too late by then?

DH gave them the food. He isn’t fussed but it

My parents have seen mine recently, but to make it safe, we've self isolated as a family for nearly 2 weeks (longer than they have). We won't be seeing them again for a while, but some families will have a safe farewell before the isolation begins. Don't assume that it will be risky, though if they are taking risks I can see why you are upset

It’s a strange predicament to be in. My DH’s Grandad is 86 and if my DH didn’t visit him, he would be completely alone (Gran died two years ago). My DH is still visiting him after work but feels seriously torn about it.

YANBU. How ridiculous.

Did their Grandkids walk 70 plus miles to get there?

I would be annoyed at that. Surely if they live that far it wasn't a surprise drop in visit, their family could have taken responsibility for making sure they had enough food.

up to them if theyre going to have the grandkids over, but absolutely no point you getting their shopping in if theyre not actually isolating.
You did a good thing, but I wouldnt bother doing it again