Cancelled sleepover

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I’m absolutely fuming 2 of My dd friends that should be coming to her cancelled sleepover tonight have just invited Her to sleep over at there’s! I mean do people not understand what social distancing means! Also these 2 children haven’t been at school for a week because they felt the school ban should have come sooner! so I’ve had tears from my dd about cancelling her Birthday plans only for someone Else to have a sleepover that I have had to tell her she cannot go to! She thinks I’m a horrible mum!
I work as a nurse I know how much people need to stay at home. I feel so cross!

You’re a nurse. Tell the parents straight. You’ll be the one on the front line after all.

She just needs to know that her friends parents are irresponsible tossers - don't hold back. She should be ashamed to think your a horrible mum when you're doing work that saves lives. Show her the reactions to these selfish and shallow spring breakers in the US. Ask her if she really wants to be like them?
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Ring the parents and tell them you’re concerned they didn’t understand why you cancelled the sleepover and Spell out the guidelines to them.

My daughter would be mortified if I ring them but seriously I’m still fuming! I don’t usually get annoyed or angry at people but this is ridiculous! I can’t seem to come down from it. I had my dd in tears yesterday because it’s just us 4 for her birthday and won’t be the usual whole family affair, And now today this! Coupled with the stresses of work! Just could do with a life remote and press pause for a bit!!

I was hoping someone might be able to provide another perspective so I can be like ‘oh yes didn’t think of it that way!’ Some people have voted saying YABU come back tell me why so I can calm myself a bit!

You're not being unreasonable at all. I would do and feel the same. I think it is taking different people a while to understand and accept the situation. I also think it is going to change very quickly.

Could you arrange a Skype “party” for her friends? I’m not sure if that’s possible one Skype? Can you link multiple calls together into one?

Did the other children message your dd directly?

How old is your DD?

I did a ‘zoom’ app birthday party for my friend last week - we had 8 people connected, could all sing happy birthday and have a chat. Maybe party games or quizzes over that?

I have spent two separate days and nights in A & E. Let me tell you that it is not a joke. It is not over hype and people are getting really, really sick. Not just of CV19 but other conditions too. I heard a teenage girl last night crying in fear because she was diagnosed and was scared, sick and alone without her parents who were banned from coming in with her due to them also having symptoms. It was heartbreaking. Birthdays and leaving dos are being reorganised. Kids are not celebrating the way they want to and yet some parents are still not making it clear to their kids who are defying advice because they just don't get it. I have banned mine from personal contact. The internet is good for every other day so why not now.

An adult to adult conversation about staying safe isn't really anything to do with your daughter. You're the grown-up, if you feel you should speak to them then do so.

How old is your DD? Because if she's secondary school age I'd have thought she'd understand and totally get that you're right and they're all wrong. Its unfortunate that she's upset. But this will be an early lesson for her that there is right and wrong behaviour and its best to be on the right side of that. Let us know how you get one with that.

I would be angry too op. Dd’s group of friends have been arranging to meet at each other’s houses etc. Thankfully she’s had to sense to say no (there are benefits to being an autistic rule follower!)

Yes she is at secondary school, she seems happy now. I think she does understand I’ve calmed down about it now I know she is ok. I just shared my first ever passive aggressive ‘I go to work to please stay at home’ post. I’m sure it’ll go over there heads though! And not the most mature thing to do!!

Awh I’m sure come time your Dd will come to realise that you did the right thing. You are protecting her, your family and the rest of society. What a crap move from the other parent

I have a friend like this that just doesn't seem to understand at all! Keeps proudly saying how she's still going out and hasn't died yet, it's just a virus, don't believe all the media crap etc. She was outraged the school sent her girls home with coughs and told the household to isolate. She still sent her older daughter to high school the next day then laughed when she got sent home! She messaged me saying 'at least we'll be able to see loads of each other'...no we wont!!! She also cares for her dad who's in his 70's. In her words, unless there's a copper outside my house pointing a gun at me im still going out. Makes me so cross

It’s crazy! Thanks everyone for letting me rant!