DD potential last day at nursery. Am I wrong here?

[Miniwinnie]

Well it only just dawned on me last night that today could be dd’s last day of nursery. This is where I have taken her almost every day for the past 4 years. I’m devastated that this could be her last day with her friends. I haven’t spoken to her about this yet.

DP previously arranged for his parents to collect her today. This was before closures were announced. I have explained to him that I would like to pick her up with it looking like it is her last day.

He is going off on one as he has already arranged with his parents. I told him that I will let them know. He says they will be disappointed. Well I will also be disappointed if I don’t get to pick her up for the last time. I wish he would just understand how I feel about this but when I try to explain he just shuts me down.

Sorry, I realise this is trivial with everything that is going on but this is my little girls last day at nursery. She will be missing out on the build up to leaving for starting school.

So I just wondered who is being unreasonable here?

My son's nursery closed yesterday. He is supposed to start school in August (Scotland). The summer holiday starts in June so it looks like my son has now finished nursery - a term and a half early with no school transition, no leaving ceremony, no opportunity to say goodbye to his nursery friends and his teacher. I was in tears about this the other day, I didn't want my son's time a nursery to end this way.

The nursery said yesterday that they will make arrangements for a leaving celebration and a chance to say goodbye in the future. At some point we will need to go back to collect his belongings and learning folder but it's just so sad.

Yes of course you should collect her on her last day, it's your child and you sound like a very sentimental person like me. Surely DP's parents should be staying away anyway?

Thanks for all of your messages. I knew there would be mixed opinions. Well I have arranged to pick her up. It will be sad day for both of us. Gp’s are absolutely fine with this. Dp still doesn’t get it though.

That's so weird that your DP doesn't get it. Nurseries are still open here, but assuming they close, DD will be going back to a different room and unfamiliar staff (even if they retain all the same staff which seems unlikely she won't know them). She's been in her current room full-time for over a year, those women are her family. I feel a bit weepy at the thought that we won't get to say a proper goodbye and thank you to them. If she were leaving altogether for school I'd be very emotional about it.

:-O why are people always shouting out that the parent will care about it more than the child- of course it means more to mum- is she not allowed to want pick up her daughter for the last time?

I would call up the GPs explain that you want to pick her up for what is now her last day and if they make a fuss put the phone down and get there early.
Dont know the dynamic of your relationship. My parents wont baby sit for us - despite us baby sitting for them, and my inlaws had tp be cut put yeats ago for robbing money off us- but even I can see that you shouldn't 'just be grateful your child has a decent set of grandparents'.
If they are nice people they would understand why you want to pick her up and be mortified that their son could have caused a rift between you and them without them possibly even knowing/ realising.

Do what you want to do- it's your child and her last day of nursery (especially in these circumstances) is allowed to be special for you.

And also to all the posters saying 'she wont even remember it'
Shes 4. She could remember it and if she doesnt then wont it be nice for the op to be able to tell her about it?
'Aww dd ypur last day at nursery was so cute- little leah came over and gave you a daisy as a goodbye present... you wanted to take miss Honey home with us... we walked the lomg way home because I wanted this special moment to last as long as possible...'
I loved hearing about little things my mum remembered fondly about me being little- whether i remembered it myself or not. God. If your kids not dying or youre not about to lose your home you're not allowed to post anything anymore.

Ahh @Miniwinnie that's great!

It is important to you - could you not do it with the parents? I was delighted with 5 children NOT to collect them from school most of the time as I worked full time.

Go. I’m a sobbing mess as this could be my eldest last primary day.
I know in the scheme it’s tiny, but it’s still hard. All the next school prep, the goodbyes. It’s all important for children to understand what’s going on and prepare for the changes.