To think this is high school bullshit- ffs

[PeepeeDarling]

Honestly ridiculous.
Right- friend a known for 10 years known of her lot longer lovely lady salt of the earth type. Friend b intense friendship over 3 years very passionate about friendships and relationships. Friend a and b through my introduction have become good friend last year or so. Friend b has accused friend a of things to me privately and now friend a has been in touch to say friend b behaving strangely and she wants to distance herself. I’m piggy in the middle!

are you all 12?

Just tell both of them you aren't interested in their petty spat & to sort out any disagreements between themselves, like adults should.

Do I tell my friend what she’s been accused of I want to be a coward and say nothing but Dh says I must tell friend what she’s been accused of doing?

Shit. Schools are out

I’m 41 years old hence my frustration that I’m being dragged into this shot show when we have a much bigger one going through n all around us!

Tell friend b to tell friend a what the matter is.

Make it clear to both that while you may (if you're up to it) be available for genuine mediation, you are not interested in anything else and if they aren't prepared to sort it then you don't want to hear about it from either of them.

As they met through you, presumably they aren't thrown together normally so you can continue to see each of them separately.

Yeah!! Not a CV Thread whoop whoop!

Just be honest and tell them you DO NOT want to get involved.

Sometimes I think it depends on what the person was supposed to have done though doesn't it?

I'm interested in how you have described both these people to be honest as it sounds like B seems by your description to be the type who may do this often and has lots of friendship issues?

I wouldn't like to be in the middle. I wouldn't get involved unless I was sure I was ready to get involved and possibly lose one of them or have one of the relationships be detrimentally affected as so frequently happens in these scenarios.

My first reaction was to say keep right out of it, but I guess it may depend on what the accusation is: it may be that A needs to know if only to stop B spreading it if it is false.

Friend b is a shit stirrer, clearly trying to come between you and friend a...claim self isolation and tick her off who needs intense shit.

Fuck not tick

Tell them to sort it out themselves. You like them both and don't want to be involved.