To wonder how I'll cope

[HerRoyalCarbyLess]

I have no idea how I'm going to survive the next few months.

I'm a single mum to 3 kids. I have significant mental health problems including voices. I am autistic and have Ehlers Danlos syndrome.
I am physically disabled.

DS1 (11) has aortic and mitral regurgitation.
DD (6) has selective mutism which is s severe anxiety disorder.
DS2 (4) has behavioural problems and school said that they were finally considering Sen, and getting the SENCO to have a look at him and we then had to self isolate so nothing got done.

I cannot access my mental health team. I'm financially screwed. A good friend gave me money for shopping, which massively helped, but I can't get a delivery for weeks, so the food I have in is for the kids and them only.
DS2 is also allergic to tomatoes and has coeliac, so it severely restricts what food we can buy and bumps up the cost of shopping. No chicken nuggets and beans here 😭

I'm now left with £10 to last until next week, a 4 year old bouncing off the walls, having had 2 screaming meltdowns already today and I'm ready to just curl up in a ball and be done with this shit.

What am I supposed to do?
I've already sorted a routine to try and keep us sane.
Not that it's working well today. Especially as I've a pounding headache.

No real point to this other than to moan. Feel free to add your own woes to the thread and we can wallow in self pity together.

I really feel for you op. That is alot on your plate. Nothing to add except my sympathy.

Goodness, you have a lot to cope with. Is there any other parent on the scene?

Bloody hell OP, you’re superwoman for coping with all that in normal circumstances.

Is there a covid Facebook support group where you live? In my area we have a food bank in the church and teams of volunteers delivering food to people self isolating, including those too short of funds to pay for it via the food bank.

Well. He's on the scene. He's not very useful though.
He walked out on us end of January when my mental health team told him I'd be off work for a few months and not to expect too much of me.
So he left, my kids additional needs mean childcare is non existent where we are, so I had to quit work.
He's now working and he comes to mine to see the kids, sits on his arse and lets them run riot.
DS1 is sick of him slagging me off and has to tell him every time that he doesn't want to hear it.
DD barely speaks to him.
DS2 wets the bed whenever he's seen him. He was dry before all this.

I've just received an email from the school regarding possibly getting vouchers for the kids for food. They're also arranging for the food bank that usually goes to the school each half term and runs a pay as you feel event, to go to the church and run it from there, so there's that at least. I've no idea when it will be. School said they'll keep us updated, so I'll phone the church at some point and ask them about possibly delivering while we are stuck indoors.

Ask for help and support wherever you can. I really hope school comes through. Call your church.

Have a handhold.

That sounds so tough, I'm sorry.

Can you look up who the organisation is that supports your voluntary and community sector locally? Lots of VCS organisations are not able to run their usual activities so are hoping to redeploy volunteers to help vulnerable people.

Local councils fund a voluntary sector support organisation so you might find it on the Council website. If you can't find it and can tell me your area, I am happy to see if I can find it.

Sending best wishes @HerRoyalCarbyLess - take care

@SeaViewBliss thank you. I wasn't aware if that. I'll have a nosy now.

God that sounds absolutely overwhelming!! Could your ex bring around food for his kids and leave it outside if you're on lock down? Then at least you can eat the food you have in the house. We had a flyer through the door from someone who is kindly offering to bring food to self-isolaters so it would be worth seeing if your town has a Facebook group and asking if there's any system in place for help at the moment.

The school phoned me and have just dropped round a food parcel. The kids have a CAF in place (because of my MH) so they're classing them as vulnerable.
Carrots, onions, soups, sausages, chicken, gluten free pancakes and potato cakes, cream cheese and yoghurts.

Atleast that’s good from the school, you’re not alone, I’m a single mum to 4 (no ex on the scene and no family) 2 have asd so it’s going to be a real struggle. My daughters school called to say she could attend as she has an ehcp but I had to decline because I would be too worried. It’s going to be a rough few months.