I'm sorry for a potentially silly question

[Mummyneedsginnow]

Hi, I'll try to keep it brief and I appreciate opinion on Mumsnet is no substitute etc however I just wanted some kind advice/opinions one way or another.

My daughter (8) Special Needs goes to stay with her dad once a week over night, he lives in a house with 4 other single men (not necessarily relevant) 2 of whom speak little English (again only relevant in respect of discussing things with them)
It is shared facilities and tbh not the cleanest place (mine isn't a palace of course)
My concern I guess is that it's not easy in such an environment to keep things clean ie kitchen bathroom etc, with current issues and two other vulnerable family members (diabetes and stg4 cancer) I am worried, I'm fully prepared to hear I'm being ridiculous, however please be kind, I don't want to deprive my daughter of time with her dad but at same time want to keep her and family safe

Thankyou

I would be cautious as you have no control over the contacts the other house occupants may have nor their hygiene.

Perhaps DC can see her Dad in the Park?

Can dad come to you and you leave the house for the afternoon?

Go fro a drive/park up read in the car?

It’s not ideal the living situation though.

No it's certainly not ideal, I've been saying for a couple of years now he needs somewhere more suitable as she sleeps on a Mattress next to his bed, tiny room etc, but I didn't want to be that mum who made it difficult, after a lot of nagging he's now soon to get a one bed flat however I suspect this will be substantially delayed under current circumstances, I will do all I can to facilitate them seeing each other whilst doing my best to keep all concerned safe

I wouldn't let my kid spend the night, or visit, a house in a room scenario. You have no idea who those other people are. I'd go back to court to push for access in their visitation centre or your house or park or something.

So no, yanbu.

I wouldn't agree to that. I'd tell him to sort himself out and then we could talk.