Husband constantly interrupting me to show me shite on FB

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In the evenings I normally sit on the sofa and read on my Kindle or scroll my phone or crochet. Husband on laptop browsing social media or playing a game.

Every 5 mins (minimum) he’ll say “ahh you’ve got to see this” or “look at this” and shows me something on his feed like a tired old meme or photos of a cat in a box or something and I just find the interruption so annoying. It’s never anything remarkable and it just feels like I can never just focus on what I’m doing.

AIBU? I might be hormonal/crabby from lockdown etc. Or is this really annoying?

PippaPegg

Hear hear.

For me this just underlines why people shouldn't live together.

* My boyfriend has to send me everything he sees on FB relating to a particular movie he loves. I'm just not interested. He's a sweetheart but why does he think him being interested in this over-rules the fact that I'm not?*

Male fucking entitlement. I'm so zero tolerance of it tbh.

I don’t think I’ve read more nonsense on mumsnet in sometime.

Did you tell him you’re not interested?

And if you have, then him continuing to send you stupid memes is due to his thick and thoughtless personality. Nothing to do with make entitlement

My dp does similar. He will sometimes think of a video he saw of something he found funny, or brilliant (usually some shit audition on bgt or xfactor) and he actually can't test until he shows me. I will tell him again and again I'm not interest and don't want to see it, but he just can't accept hat then when I don't laugh or find it amazing he will say I'm weird . A lot of the time I purposely don't laugh, or tell him its rubbish just to annoy him. Sometimes I leave the room so he can't show me.

There's nothing worse than someone shoving their phone in your face to show you something. DD is the worst for this, usually some obscure Gen Z meme that I dont understand anyway

DH at least has the decency to WhatsApp whatever it is to me. If I'm not interested I just reply "Mark as read"

The poor man is probably just trying to share his life with you, the woman he loves. He's doing it in an annoying way but let's be honest, the alternative is he stops trying to interact with you altogether as it sounds you have with him. Do you even like him anymore?

Is that the only alternative? I feel like there might be another alternative... you know, like communicating with his wife respectfully rather than interrupting her every 5 minutes with worthless internet nonsense she isn’t interested in.

Would you interrupt a colleague or friend every 5 minutes to show them internet memes they weren’t interested in?

Just interesting that you think there are two options: a) a man is at liberty to interrupt his wife with mindless rubbish as he pleases or b) a man stops speaking to his wife altogether.

Btw, the OP says she crochets. I don’t know if you’ve ever tried crocheting, but it requires quite a bit of concentration, so being interrupted every 5 minutes when you’re trying to concentrate on it would be really fucking irritating.

my DH does this but I like it! I did have to implement a "no talking about Trump in the bedroom" rule though :(

DH does this constantly, mostly about football which I dont give a shit about. I am WFH due to sodding Covid and he constantly interrupts me to show me stuff. Does my head in

Oh God my DH does this, usually shoving his phone right under my nose. Drives me mad cos it's always crap anyway.

I am your DH 🤣 but to be honest I do it to try and encourage some kind of conversation from my husband if we’re both mindlessly scrolling our phones of an evening!

My DH does this too, usually crappy GIFs from his colleagues.

I find speaking to them in a stern tone of voice and rapping them smartly with a rolled-up newspaper discourages my family from talking to me when I. Am. Reading. A. Book.

Oh yes, mine does this too. Fucking annoying. Often while we're watching something on TV and then he will insist on pausing TV so that I can look at whatever shite he wants to show me. Or sometimes he will snigger to himself and wait for me to ask him what he's laughing at. Except I don't...

My husband does this too, it’s usually some shite he’s watching on tv and he can see I’m not watching and he says

Watch this, blunt, watch this, are you watching, watch watch,

And honestly it’s dull as fuck when I do watch and of no interest at all.

It's a form of attention seeking.

My ex would constantly interrupt me with all sorts of things. He hated it if I wasn't giving him my attention all the time. And I mean all. I could pick up a book and count down to the first interruption, it was that obvious.

Yet he'd hate it if I dared to interrupt him.

My husband very occasionally gets like this (though not as extreme). I tell him to save it up and show me all of it in one go, and that usually has a dampening effect.

scroll my phone or crochet

Crochet is probably your best weapon here. When he says “look at this skiing warship dog”, say “okay, hold on a minute, let me get to the end of this row/round” and make him wake progressively longer amounts of time before you stop what you’re doing.

He thinks your time is worth nothing, so start making his time worth nothing too.

He’ll soon tire of being bored waiting for you.

Could also do it with the phone and “let me just finish reading this article”. He won’t be bother by the time you look up 5 mins later.

YABU sounds like he just wants interaction, do you just sit next to each other ignoring each other all Eve?

zombie thread

in wonder if theyre stil sitting there with their crochet and fb