To warn you if you are in DV relationship

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That it will slowly and irretrievably destroy your soul?

I will never be loved again. No one will want to when they find out who I am. I'm starting to believe all the things he said I am.

It's destroyed my relationships with people - friends, family, colleagues. I'm just a horrible, nasty, dull piece of shit.

I was a child in a DV family. The typical story, pillars of the community, exceptionally cruel behind closed doors. Nobody would believe it. It never goes away, but discovering what love should look like, and what having fun feels like... it’s the most amazing feeling in the world.

@Piecrust32 my DP is similar, she gets excited about things I wouldn't think twice about. It's made me see things with a new perspective.

I think the self-isolating we're dealing with is going to bring up lots of people's 'bug-a-boos'. Things we've put in that closet in the back of our heads and shut the door during the day to day 'busyness' of our lives.

Times like these tend to cause those closet doors to crack open and it can be hard to shove our fears/negative feelings back in and slam the door when you're bored or worried.

Acknowledge that things are difficult right now. Recognize that these negative feelings are NOT reality, but a manifestation of our worries about other things.

Try to keep busy. My house's closets and cupboards are going to be so clean and so organized when this is over that I will put Martha Stewart to shame.

This bullshit is what THEY fear most about themselves

Don’t fall for it.

You will be loved, YOU love you enough to know that you deserve better than the life he allowed you to have

He holds no power, he is nothing and that’s what he will always be

You however will rise.

I was you, stuck 4 flights up in a building with no lift, with a toddler thousands of miles from home, with parents who didn’t want to help their daughter get out.

I’m free and have been for 10 years now, I have risen. Sure I still doubt myself but I know I’m worth so much more than that poor weak excuse for a man.

Now his son even knows what a complete waste of space he is, he’s lost it all and he deserved to.

If you saw me now, you’d never believe it! Have faith. Have therapy. Live the life you should have.

I've been in and out of a dv relationship for the last 4yrs. I know I am not the things he says I am but he does get me down and I am no longer in contact with ANY of my friends because of him. It's sad, I have 3 children from previously relationship and a 2.5yr old and 5wk baby with him. He is currently awol again. I know how it works, he will come crawling back soon telling me how sorry he is and promising to change.

I irritate myself because my head knows all this and the pattern that happens but something makes me keep taking him back. I know what I need to do, and I know it is in my best interests but I just can't let go and neither can he.

Listen to Post Malone - Circles - he is singing our situations.

Message me if you'd like to talk.

Sorry to ask what is DV.

DV = Domestic violence Bananabread

Been there OP 8 years ago. Still think about what he did but I dont have to barricade my bedroom door anymore incase he gets in. You will get there x

I agree with Acrossthepond, Lockdown has released the catches on doors we'd slammed shut..
I'm exactly where you are OP, not DV but EA, and 12 years of it..some days i feel so hideous when i look in the mirror, i'm embarrassed to leave the house. I start crying if i think someone is criticising me, even if they're not necessarily, and i constantly have flashbacks.. I've spent the darkest of days in bed.
On Thursday i am seeing a counsellor, and i highly recommend The Freedom programme.. You need to find the energy to find help and support OP, they must not be allowed to destroy us anymore!