Phone bedtime

[Seasonalanxiety]

Dd is 14. She hands her phone in every evening before bed and gets it back in the morning. This is because otherwise she'd never go to sleep!
Her phone bedtime was 10 and has recent been extended to 10.30. However come 10.30 every night she's always on call with loads of people and it's a struggle getting it off her.

In context she has a lot of homework plus sport a few nights a week so often only on her phone from 9.00 ish....
She gets up at 7.00 for school. Is 10.30 too early and am I unreasonable?

I was told a few weeks ago in a meeting (family worker, ewo and head of year at school) that 10pm was too late a bedtime for my 13 year old. He wasn't allowed his phone/ any screens from 9.30.

He now turns screens off by 9pm and is in bed by 9.30.

If she gets up easily for school and is doing her best in school, then I wouldn’t worry too much. Friends are of huge importance to teens. Your dd is active etc the earlier part of the evening which is great so it’s kind of her down time to just relax and chill. I saw a documentary years ago which studied teens and their hormones actually contribute to making them want to stay up later etc.
Maybe you could try giving her a count down ie 5 minutes and then no more phone ( if she’s in the middle of a chat). If she doesn’t comply then the following night she hands her phone much earlier.
I’ve never had to do this with my older 3 but I’m usually asleep before they were.
They did always get up in time and worked hard at school though.

If she doesn't hand it in instantly at 10.30, then put it back to 10. Though my ds will be 14 in a couple of months, and that would be waaaay too late for him.

My almost 14 year old has to come off his phone at 9pm. Lights out at 9.30pm. He’s in Yr9.

An hour and a half is PLENTY. Be firm.

No screens after 9pm for our DD .

@Fiveletters you do the same as us.

Our DD is under a paediatrician... she mentioned that screens beyond this time for teenagers is too late .
The blue light really does affect their brains & wellbeing.

Hum. She gets up easily, does well at school. Friendships are important and I don't want to deprive her. Not interesting - I had a quick look on previous similar posts about this and they are full of patents who take phones away early. Except.... DD is talking to someone so where are the parents who are much laxer than me? I meet them at parent event-they seem lovely and normal but their ids are still on their phones at 11!

DC14 phone in my room charging by 21:30 and lights off by 22:00.

Now can someone please take mine off me!!