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Livid with DH grossness!

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Cocoandclive27 · 17/03/2020 13:07

Both of us currently working from home. He has popped out to get some essentials on his lunch break. Uses the bathroom before he goes out. While he's out I need the loo, the dirty sod has left it blocked with the worlds biggest poo! It took me ages to unblock the toilet. I wouldn't have bothered if it weren't for the fact that I needed to go myself and we only have the one toilet in the house.

Seriously is it me or is it very disrespectful to go out and leave the bathroom in that state for the next person? He's a 43 year old, professional, intelligent man. Not a child. It's going to be a long old quarantine period if I'm having to deal with shit like that - pun intended.

Would you say anything?

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drippingwet · 17/03/2020 13:08

I’d have fished it out and dropped it on his laptop!

LovingLola · 17/03/2020 13:09

Why do you even have to ask that question??? Of course you say something to him

Marilynmansonsothereye · 17/03/2020 13:10

Id have weed in the bath/garden/basin and made him sort it out!

Minesacider · 17/03/2020 13:10

That's disgusting. Of course you need to say something, it's really disrespectful to leave his mess behind for you to deal with.

GrannySlippersAreAStepTooFar · 17/03/2020 13:12

Jesus, absolutely disgusting.
I'd be wondering if he usually does this at work and leaves it for some other poor sod to clean.

xILikeJamx · 17/03/2020 13:12

It's possible he did his business, flushed, washed his hands and left and is unaware of the beast he left behind.

I'm not in the habit of checking after I flush the loo. I don't shit rugby balls mind you...

20viona · 17/03/2020 13:13

Why the hell have you unblocked HIS shit?! He can deal with it!

Original poster
Cocoandclive27 · 17/03/2020 13:17

@20viona because as I said in my OP i needed the loo to be useable for me! Don't get me wrong I'm not in the habit of clearing up his shit! I hope that perhaps he didn't realise or thought it might gradually dissipate naturally.

Not sure how to say 'fucking clean your own mess up next time' in a diplomatic way

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Tighnabruaich · 17/03/2020 13:25

Why do you need to be diplomatic about it! Just tell him he left a cucumber-sized turd in the loo and you had to manually dismantle it before you could sit down.

JigsawsAreInPieces · 17/03/2020 13:25

Not sure how to say 'fucking clean your own mess up next time' in a diplomatic way

Fuck diplomacy, he left a massive blockage for you to sort out. There's no way he didn't know it hadn't flushed. Hmm

MiniCooperLover · 17/03/2020 13:25

Don't be diplomatic, lay ground rules now !!

20viona · 17/03/2020 13:26

Not sure how to say 'fucking clean your own mess up next time' in a diplomatic way*

Exactly like this. Leaving shite in the toilet isn't exactly diplomatic in the first place!

islandislandisland · 17/03/2020 13:28

This happens to me at least once a month. Quick shit before going out to Sunday league, in a hurry, flush and put seat down, no idea it hasn't flushed. I go fucking beserk at him every time. Absolutely tell him and tell him to check it's gone next time.

PinkiOcelot · 17/03/2020 13:29

God that’s vile. I couldn’t have dealt with it.

Ninkanink · 17/03/2020 13:30

Why, precisely, do you need to be diplomatic??

I’d be saying it exactly as you said it there! Thankfully I’d never have to as my DH is respectful of me.

Qwertygert · 17/03/2020 13:57

I tell my husband when he is disgusting. Like when I am gagging on his fumes when I walk in the bathroom he has just shut the door to without opening a window. Aye coz that will help Hmm

He now knows to open a window and to use the airfreshner I bought for the toilet downstairs and the bathroom upstairs and if he needs a big crap to poop upstairs so the smell doesnt drift through to me on the sofa!! Urgh!

Qwertygert · 17/03/2020 13:58

Also i remind him that for our marriage to work i need to find him attractive and that does not make me want to bang him! x

NoMorePoliticsPlease · 17/03/2020 14:00

I dont really understand how people are poducing logs so big as to need physically pushing through. Is there something wrong with the diet?

HarrietThePi · 17/03/2020 14:02

No need for diplomacy. It may be that he didn't realise it hadn't flushed.

redwoodmazza · 17/03/2020 14:15

Maybe take a photo and send it to him!!! Wink

Durgasarrow · 17/03/2020 15:21

redwoodmazza--yes!

randomchap · 17/03/2020 15:31

If it's a one off just mention that he accidentally left a massive turd for you to clean up. He'll probably be thoroughly embarrassed and apologise.

If it's a regular thing then I'd be thinking of leaving him. It's just a disgusting thing to do deliberately.

Original poster
Cocoandclive27 · 17/03/2020 15:35

It's not regular that he leaves me to clear it up but he does have form for monster turds.

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randomchap · 17/03/2020 15:39

he does have form for monster turds.

How on earth do you know? Is he taking photos and putting them on facebook?

64sNewName · 17/03/2020 15:40

I dont really understand how people are poducing logs so big as to need physically pushing through. Is there something wrong with the diet?

I am also curious about this. A member of my household (not me!) left one behind the other week and I was Shock at the size and um, sturdiness of it.

I don't think it's a regular thing for that person though...

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