To be annoyed at this pregnancy app

[Neverendingslippers]

Just need a bit of a moan really as this set me over the edge today...
I'm 40 weeks today and to be honest, thoroughly miserable. Nothing but horror stories in the news; I have hyperemesis so I spend every morning throwing up bile and all day, every day feeling thoroughly rotten and am so very sick of feeling so sick and just want it to be over. All my plans for maternity leave are out the window thanks to this wretched virus as my husband is self employed and if he can't continue to work he'll need to stay home with our baby so I can go back to work much earlier than planned as I have a stable job (thankfully) so it's the only way we could survive financially as we cannot live off of my maternity pay. I have no friends with babies and was so looking forward to going to groups etc. which is obviously now not going to happen. This is my first baby and generally, I just feel pretty miserable as I know many people do at the moment and for far more valid reasons than I have but just so you get the picture.

I've been using the Ovia app to track my pregnancy and every week I look forward to finding out how big my baby is and read the weekly progress update. This morning, feeling particularly sensitive anyway being my due date and not the slightest sign that my baby plans on making a move anytime soon, I open the app and the very first thing I read is that my baby is at risk of stillbirth if they don't arrive in the next few weeks.
I'm a nurse so in total honesty, I already knew this but really?! Is that necessary to put in an app for pregnant women to read on their due date?! To have such a horrifying thought planted. It made me so upset in my already overly hormonal state and I just sobbed to my husband and now he's gone to work and I'm still sat here miserable because of it.
AIBU to think that the app really could have considered a more sensitive way to put across this information if it really felt the need to at all?

I don’t see anything wrong with it, it’s factual.

And explains clearly why you might need to be induced if get to two weeks over, as the risk is too high

I think you are being a little over sensitive about the app. It only mentions it in the sense that you can expect midwives to advise intervention if nothing happens by 2 weeks' time.

About the rest - YANBU - it's all very rubbish and different to what you would have hoped for. If I were you though I would not hasten back to work. Breast feeding protects babies against infection and I am sure you would want to give the baby as much protection against this as possible. It won't be possible to breast feed and work full time with a young baby. The government will hopefully bail out self employed workers before you have to make any big decisions.

PS hope you get to meet your little one very soon!

I don't think there's anything wrong with it.

I had my first in 1985 and there were a lot of stillbirths compared with now. The attitude was that, 'the baby will come when it's ready' and there was some opposition to being started off etc.

Some women don't have RL support and so should be given this information wherever they are looking up anything pregnancy related. Just like 'count the kicks' and safe sleeping.

We should have knowledge about the placenta and how it can stop working. I didn't know that until my Daughter was pregnant. Even though I've had three live babies and losses.

I agree with @dishwashersaurous it's really nothing like you describe in your op. It's factual and just explains why you'd need to be induced if you go over two weeks.

Maybe you're feeling a bit overwhelmed by everything else that's going on atm.

I can see why you'd find it upsetting but it's just factual useful information. I move seen a rise in the last few years in my birth groups of women saying they trust their bodies to know when baby is ready to come so risk going over 42 weeks and some don't know the risk of still births... everything thinks it won't happen to them into it does. I had a friend lose her baby to still birth during labour at 41 weeks

The app is there to gives facts, not be emotional.

Okay, I get it, thanks.

I completely see where you're coming from. I had to be induced at 38 weeks for medical reasons, but it took a few attempts over 4 days. Because of how much they'd stressed about stillbirths etc I was panicking that he would be in distress. But he was absolutely fine. I think there are ways of saying it and at the mo, it's only natural for you to feel like this.

Even without all this additional shit going on the last bit of pregnancy can be incredibly tough, it was the grumpiest I’d ever been and I didn’t have HG or these huge extra worries. To be so close to the end of this stage but not yet there is stressful and exhausting. Try and keep away from the news, distract yourself. Do whatever you can to take care of yourself practically and mentally. DD arrived 5 days late and my god it felt like weeks.

I don't find this bothersome at all. The end is in sight chin up.

I think you are probably being more sensitive than usual given your circumstance. I remember getting extremely irritated over everything just before I was due. I called MIL a bitch because she dared to tell me that somebody else had had their baby. How dare she tell me that when I was 39 weeks and no sign of my little one?! (Lighthearted of course)

Also the state if the world is enough to make anyone feel hormonal and crap. Please don't worry, your little bundle will be here soon

I would agree that mentioning stillbirth the minute you hit 40 weeks is a bit unnecessary but don't forget some women wouldn't know it was a risk and might just carry on and go dangerously overdue

Sending love your way x