Please Help - I Really Need Some Outside Perspective

[MummyGoingItAlone]

I don’t know what to do :( I’m really stressed and upset.

I’ve recently become a single mum. I rent a decent house in an OK area. I pay for everything myself. I have no real luxuries so cannot save any money by cancelling anything. I have a car but it’s paid for so it’s only the running costs, which are minimal. I pay full time nursery fees of £1073 a month. I earn £43k a year and pretty much work all waking hours during the week. My salary barely covers my outgoings. I hardly ever see my son. I hate my job. It is such a negative environment and I mostly spend my days dealing with things that have happened before my time (usually unpaid bills) my boss is super flexible and generous but she is also epically needy and negative. I don’t achieve anything, ever. It’s always firefighting and I don’t agree with a lot of things she does. Today has been truly awful and I’ve spent most of the afternoon fighting tears and I’ve had enough.

What are my options, honestly? I’m skint and I know in 18 months I’ll get my 30 hours free, but I’d have been worked into the ground by then and missed my sons toddler years.

I don’t want to be a single mum on benefits and will always work in some capacity or another but I cannot sustain my current situation.

I just don’t know what to do 😩 how do single parents survive? I just can’t see a way out

Could you move your son into your bedroom and rent his to a lodger for 18 months? It would enable you to drop a day at work if your boss would agree and you could move him back once he gets the free nursery hours.

Sorry but NRTWT but just wanted to suggest with your new single parent situation and unhappy work life you may be entering depression, consider seeing your GP, you may temporarily need something to help you get through the next challenging 30mths or so.

Your manager has got you by the gonads - emotionally and physically. You must get out of that job as soon as possible. She's relying on your situation forcing you not to hand your notice in. Be angry about this and take a stand for your happiness and welfare!! And make a gp visit too. You are dangerously stressed. Also spend time finding out what your entitled to for support, say if you lessened hours working. YOU need it. Best of luck. Create a new situation - you can do it.