To think ear pulling by a parent to punish a child is NOT acceptable??

[FabledBunny]

So my friend has told me that if her Son misbehaves her husband has pulled his ear to walk him to the stairs to sit there as ‘time out’ or if he doesn’t listen etc. Now i know all kids can test our patience and mis-behave but my friend’s husband sounds like a controlling bully and i know her Son who is a lovely young lad and it really makes me sad to think of him being hurt. AIBU?? Surely pulling a child by their ear is not ok?

ANY physical abuse towards a child is not ok - don't ever doubt yourself on that!

I saw this happen in the street a couple of years ago and reported it to the non-emergency police. I had it on dashcam footage and the police were definitely interested.

If you saw a woman being dragged around by her ear by her partner it would definitely not be ok. Just because a child is involved doesn't make it any less of an assault.

We all need to advocate on behalf of children to keep them from harm.

When it's done hard enough and with twisting too it causes the connecting skin between the lobe and face to tear and bleed. It got to the point where I had to have stitches. I've never escaped my childhood because every winter I'm treated to a reminder as the damaged connecting tissue splits in the cold. I'm also forced to admit to my childhood every time it gets so bad it needs treating.

It's a great way to continue to publicly abuse a child while appearing not to be doing so and the child can be blamed for the damage done. Do something please.

@DontPetTheSweatyStuff ah reassuring that social services have left children in such a womans care

At my primary school ear pulling was seen as a standard punishment by certain staff members.
My ear lobe was torn to the point of bleeding when I was dragged back to the table for not eating cold, dried peas. Apparently it was my fault for resisting!
I may have a scar that splits painfully each winter but I still don’t eat my peas!

@AlltheRs, I’m so sorry I made light of my similar injury. I didn’t see your post.

Like another poster said I find it odd that if we were to see someone in the street yelling in the face of someone/being physically or verbally abusive/aggressive to another vulnerable adult or even an animal we would be outraged or try to intervene, yet when it happens to a child alot of people are of the opinion that its no one elses business etc. Physically hurting a child in any way is abuse to me and the dad sounds like an arse hole

I dont support any form of physical punishment, and I find this even more cruel than smacking. It's so calculated and seems far more vindictive.

@cherrylovex3 That's not even the worst of it, unfortunately.

An ex friend of mine used to nip the inside of her children's upper arms if she deemed them to be misbehaving. Made me feel sick. And yes, I did pull her up on it and was told to mind my own business. Hence ex friend.

I heard that once on the radio, local breakfast show host was boasting that he'd found a way to make his kids listen in public without shouting at them, and then described how he'd crouch down to their level and pinch the inside of their elbow it made me feel sick tbh. He seemed to think it was a less violent alternative to smacking, as though it was highly inconvenient not to be able to threaten a smack.

It wasn't even a long time ago, maybe 10 years or so?

It's not good parenting.

It's so wrong to pull a child ear . Jesus was gentle and that's how we should be.

I believe Jesus wants us to be gentle with our children. Pulling ears is abuse.

This is a thread from two years ago. Why are you resurrecting it?