To cancel the wedding...?

[Icanflyhigh]

Due to get married 13th June in the UK. Church and reception all booked and paid for.
Worried that neither parents will be able to attend if over 70s are forced to isolate and many of the guests won't be able to attend either.
STBDH really wants his family to be there, he's an only child to his father who turns 70 in May, his maternal grandparents are in their late 80s and not in the best of health anyway.
My mum is 70, we have other elderly relatives....

What would you do?

FFS, just buy wedding insurance. You can get it for around £30!

I lost all sympathy when I read you didn't have any, I'm afraid.

Any wedding/travel insurance purchased now won't cover cancellation due to CV.

I've cancelled my massive 40th birthday party in June

June IS going to be peak infection risk time. We do know this. Large gatherings are likely to be banned as well - Austria has banned anything with more than five people. And even if they are not, my over 70's invitees wouldn't be able to come, and others who are then going home to care for over 70's or vulnerable would be at potential risk of spreading.

I'm not having literally everyone I appreciate and love (my whole guest list) risking being exposed.

FFS anyone who thinks you can go out and get wedding insurance now doesn't understand insurance. And it's not just about the money. If things go to plan DS2 and his GF will be emigrating shortly after their wedding. They have to go this year because of Brexit, he will be starting University in her country while he gets fluent in the language. There are just a few weeks when all the GPs can attend a wedding as 2 of the UK GPs wouldn't be able to travel abroad due to health reasons. No insurance in the world can make up for that.

I'm getting married abroad in june. I was going to postpone until September but I'm going to wait one more month and then decide.
It's hard to know what to do for the best.

We're due to go to a family wedding a long drive away early May. Feel so sad for B&G as the stress related to any wedding is considerable - this must be ramping it up somewhat.
I've bought dress, present, booked rooms (non refundable).....and I'm front line acute NHS worker......
I plan to wait and see, and will go if at all possible.
If it all goes tits up, I hope someone can do a live video link. They do it for funerals, so can't be that difficult.

Most wedding insurers aren’t covering weddings in the next 5 months.

I’m mid May. We have no option to cancel; really - it’d be counted as a change of mind. We are covered if the venue cancel but they’ve said they won’t be doing so, and they won’t allow reschedules either. Fiancé’s parents don’t think they’ll be able to come due to the quarantine. We have final payments to make which are contractually still due but it feels insane to be 9 weeks away with no idea if it’ll happen...

It looks like the UK is unlikely to ban anything under 100 people, so we’re okay there; but even then I think insurance would try to wriggle our of covering it by saying it’s now a government act and therefore not covered.

This situation is likely to continue for 4-6 months minimum.
I think you ought to consider whether it's more important to you to get married, or to have a get together with family and friends.
You can get married in June and have a celebration with the oldies later, when allowed?

FFS, just buy wedding insurance. You can get it for around £30! You can't insure for a risk that is already happening. No wedding insurance bought now is going to include coronavirus,

The over 70s arent going to he forced to isolate they're going to be asked to. Itll be up to you & them if they attend

There has been no wedding insurance available for some weeks, since coronavirus first emerged as an issue. It's simply not possible to get cover - much sympathy to those affected.
inews.co.uk/news/consumer/coronavirus-in-the-uk-wedding-insurance-firms-weddingplan-john-lewis-debenhams-applications-2450337

I would say being married is even more important now. No way I'd cancel.

I’d postpone it by quite a few months

dont cancel yet, play it week by week. If it was abroad i would be advising to cancel

dont cancel yet, play it week by week. If it was abroad i would be advising to cancel

I'd cancel. We may not know exactly what June will be like, but anyone who thinks this will all have blown over is living in cloud cuckoo land. This is not something that's happening "abroad" it's here and now and taking contingency action is eminently sensible.

I would say being married is even more important now. No way I'd cancel.

I agree with this. Surely what is happening now around the world would make me bring the legal part forward, not put it off.

I think I would cancel, and the reason I would give is that if you have ppl coming from overseas, or traveling from some distance, they will have to start getting their logistics organized. If they book flights or hotels, these may not be refundable. So whilst leaving it a while may mean you can protect yourself, it may mean others are open to losing money.
I am sorry , but I think the prevailing medical view is that it will last for longer than a 3 months.

I'm end of June and I'm waiting at least a month to see what's happening with the coronavirus. I think then I will have a conversation with my venue to see what the options are and whether it's better to postpone. I cant afford to cancel, and like you OP I dont have any insurance due to it being a small budget wedding anyway with a very reliable venue. Honeymoon is likely to be cancelled as well which I'm already gutted enough about but if the wedding cant even go ahead I will be devastated

I would say being married is even more important now. No way I'd cancel.. Wholeheartedly agree with this, especially if you have children.

I would probably get married at the Registrar’s Office as soon as then have a lovely party later in the year.

I wouldn’t cancel, it’s three months away and I bet it will have faded to bone existence by then.

I would wait to make a decision. Things are changing so fast.

We agonized over our trip this week. In the end the decision was made for us. Then I tried to call all the companies to cancel. Huge hold times. Decided to give it 24 hours since I had 48 until our departure. They all ended up contacting me and giving refunds. So basically, sitting back and letting the world be chaotic around me saved me time and effort and got me the same result as panicking would have.

We were due to get married early May but both Mums are over 70 and we don't want to put anyone at risk. Its only a small event but we're probably going to put it back to the end of October. I agree about it being even more important to have the legal part of married in place but DP really wants his mum to be there.

Dr Sarah Jarvis (I think) on bbc radio 2 today. Someone asked about going to 3 weddings in June, July & August asked if they should cancel given the current situation. Without missing a beat she said absolutely cancel the June one.

Far better to wait and let venues cancel on you so you can get refunds. If quarantines are still in place you can organize a delivery to your elderly relatives of tge meal, cake etc and set up video calls so they can see the whole ceremony etc.

There is no way in hell a June wedding will happen, surely.