Infertility

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Sorry re-posting here because of traffic and i know most mothers use this site .
I haven't had my periods for a few years and my doctor did a scan and he said that he thinks my ovaries weren't working well and then did a blood test . I can see my blood test results online and the level is FSH2 92.80 which is very high for my age (18).
I have an appointment tomorrow and i already know what hes going to say i feel like crying. I've always wanted to be a mum and i know their is alternative ways of becoming a mum but i just don't think any partner would stay with me after i will tell them i am infertile.
& its really hard to stop myself comparing myself to my little sister who has regular periods and everything is normal with her .

My DD wasn't ovulating, if that's what you meant by 'not working well', she started again after having hormone treatment.

She went from flooding while not ovulating to barely no bleeding while ovulating. Fertility isn't a simple process, as such.
She now has two children.

You need to relax and clear your mind until your appointment.

As for finding a partner, if the relationship happens naturally, rather than tickboxes on Tinder etc, many men will go through the IVF journey.

If your fsh is 92 then I would have a look at the daisy network website.

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@Ponoka7 i had an operation when i was younger due to having anaemia which had a risk of damaging the ovaries and i think it did damage mine.

@MelAndShoe i've seen it . Im just so upset its always me that has everything go wrong.

It's really hard. It's ok to feel like this just now. It's like a grief process. Daisy network fb group v supportive.

There are diff options for the future but I understand you cant think about that now.

I've been where you are. I cant make it better. But thinking of you. Be kind to yourself. Let us know how you get on.

Op you’re still very young and this would be a shock to anyone.

Write down all the questions you want to ask the doctor so you don’t forget any as you’re bound to get emotional at the appointment.

Don’t jump to the conclusion that no partner will stay with you if you are infertile because that’s just not true. Anecdotally I can think of at least two couples I know where they wanted and tried for children but it hasn’t happened due to infertility and they’re still together decades later, and another where they tried for children for 9 years and eventually were successful with IVF.

i am 39 with 2 kids

i have NEVER had a period due to severe PCOS

i was told at 17 i was infertile due to undeveloped ovaries and never starting my periods

now i have never used any contraception due to this and ive only ever been with my partner so none was needed ,if i caught it wound be very welcome so from 18-23 you could say we were trying, i finally caught naturally in 2003 and again 2009,this one was 4 years of fertility tablets,still no periods but they some how worked

due to lack of sex drive,well no sex drive at all and circumstances with disabled child needing 24/7 care i only had sex twice that year,in the January and the October,i caught the 2nd time
so if i can with no period only having sex twice a year there is hope for others

i was you at 17/18 thought i would never have any children unless ivf or adoption

my sister is 6 and half years younger than me and started her period at 9,i was 15 at the time and remember getting very upset as the doctors wasnt willing to help me till i was at least 16 so i didnt know why then.

I had a premature menopause or premature ovarian failure diagnosed when I was 24yrs old. I now have 3 children, a girl and twin boys thanks to lots of ivf and 2 egg donors. It's possible and won't put off the right partner.

Hi OP that sounds tough I'm sorry. Do you have anyone you can take to the doctors with you for support? It's hard to take in information when emotions are running high so its good to have someone with you to help you remember what was said / next steps / options etc. If not you could make some notes. Good luck

Don't panic. There are lots of things they can do. I was given a drug to restart my periods. Bloody horrible but it worked. I would be more concerned you think your partner will leave you, if that is true then personally I would not be wanting to have a child with them. If you think having a child Will save the relationship it likely won't. Good luck.

but i just don't think any partner would stay with me after i will tell them i am infertile.

This is not true. Any partner worth being with will stay with you because of you.