Aibu to think there will be parents who abuse the self isolation rule to avoid fines

[AHouseFullOfTerrors]

My db recently received attendance records for his 3dcs. ( mess up with the email address when they updated system)
He is horrified. It seems she keeps child 1 off every other Monday and Friday . Child 2 off weds and Thurs and occasionally child 3 off the same days.
Their attendance is shocking. They are late everyday they attend.
He wasnt aware and is now trying to deal with the school who have now said all absences will be unauthorised. On the records it gives reasons their mother had given.
Examples.. Child's hair was too knotty to brush
Childs trousers were too short.
Child didn't eat breakfast.

When db spoke to his ex she said she hates them going to school because the day drags and its a 'bind' doing school runs. He has offered to help and she's refused.
Anyway her words to him yesterday when he had yet another text alert saying the dcs were late and he questioned her was.. We'll fuck it if the school are gonna get funny over what I do with My kids ill isolate them and there's nothing they can do.

I find this really sad and hoping she doesn't do it for the wrong reasons.
Fwiw there is currently SS involvement and I believe the kids will be with him soon permanently thank god.

Wow! I actually feel so sorry for the children. It must be incredibly unsettling for them. I remember turning up late for school ONCE and I was absolutely mortified and that was in the primary school! It's sad that people are going to abuse the self isolate rule. I can't imagine she will be the first or the last. I hope it all works out well for them.

And I know it would be a minority of cases or parents that do this. I mean for those so close to fines and this would avoid a fine

I don't breaks my heart and my dbs.
Thankfully it's looking very likely they'll be with him and his wife soon and be more settled. They're such lovely kids and they have been begging to love with dB.
They say its embarrassing and get picked on when late and no one plays with them or everyone has sat with their friends and they have to sit wherever there is left.
Theyre only 10, 8 and 7.

Your op title is different to your actual issue imho.
Will people abuse the rules? Yes of course. People abuse every rule that's partly why we have prisons. Does that mean we shouldn't put rules in place to protect and support the most vulnerable in society? Of course not.

Your DB's individual situation sounds really difficult, I hope it gets sorted out soon.

I thought you meant for going on holiday in term time - but I guess most sensible people won’t do that.

Why she is doing that is beyond me- maybe she needs a job to keep herself busy?

Yes and holidays I'd imagine people would do it for.

Yeah I kind of de railed a bit then but was trying to explain and I always end up going long winded.

She has a job but on Mat leave ( not dbs baby) think she's due really soon.

Is this about your ex Sil or people abusing the SI rules?

The first- really sad regardless of self isolation. She’s already abusing the children’s rights.

The second- not your concern. I wouldn’t waste any energy over it.

Are you aware there is a topic for these never ending posts? I'll report your thread and ask it to be moved

Kids grades drop dramatically when they aren’t in school.

The day dragging is a really bad excuse for not sending them in.

I honestly do not give a crap if people abuse it to ‘avoid fines’ - at some point it’s going to kick in that it Doesn’t matter and there’s a bigger picture here.