Why is there always someone 'better' on OLD

[Comfyslippers28]

Not really any advice that can be given just a rant really.
Tired of people I am enjoying talking to suddenly vanishing in the middle of the conversation.
It happens loads, and they don't even unmatch you they just leave you wondering if they will ever reply.
Just finding OLD tough. This is going to sound harsh but the only ones I get frequent replies from come across as very desperate, I mean one guy asked me in the 2nd message why my last relationship broke down (?!) one guy was talking to to me then said "Sorry, you live too far for marriage and kids."
Someone who told me I "Don't even have the decency to reply" because I hadn't replied in 10 minutes. (I wait days sometimes pal !)

Just stuff like that. Don't think there is anything wrong with the messages, they aren't overly long or negative, just that there is always someone they like better.

No chance of me meeting anyone IRL. I like someone at work but no idea how to pursue things.
Just wondering why i'm not enough.

In what way do you have no idea how to pursue the person at work? Much better to pursue a real life person IMO. Too many weirdos and flakes online, and OLD is like a massive sweet shop.

I think i'm lacking the confidence. He's new and I don't even know if he's single for a start.
We have had 2 conversations about work etc. But not sure what to do further.
It really is a sweet shop. I think a lot of blokes on it are on the rebound and make a profile when they have just broken up with someone, stuff like that. It's very flaky.

I agree it’s awful. One guy I spoke with revealed all his ‘kinks’ after we’d been chatting for about 30 mins. Another seemed really great - we actually met a few times and was sending me ‘such a lovely evening’ messages, but then the messages fizzled out as quickly as it started and I don’t even know what to think with that one as I felt it was going well but I guess there was someone better too.

But I’m sure, just like there are some genuine women, there must be genuine men too. I think you just need a tough skin, dust yourself off and pick things back up again.

One thing I am keen on is arranging a date quickly and I will push for it instead of waiting for them. I think connections are never going to happen by just messaging back and forward and eventually they will find others to date instead.

@shadowmoonlight sorry to hear you have had some strange guys too !
That's a good idea pushing to meet up.
I'd just love to know what sorts of conversations they are having with these ones they think are better 😅