Breakup

[PrincessDi16]

So I have been with my now ex for nearly 5 years, we have 2 children together and about a month ago he started to lie to me about what was happening at work and about a week or so later he got sacked and one of his colleagues reported him to the police for sexual assault (he said that he only gave her a kiss on the cheek and because she put her arm around him first he gave her cuddle) and because he was lying to me before I don't trust him. I kicked him out because I can't have him living with me anymore. He is staying at his mums house and she keep asking if we're going to get back together and making me feel guilty because he was there for me and the kids when I had MH issues and now I kicked him out. My older DD is very attached to her dad and she is really upset when he is not about. I do let him come round to see the kids whenever he want and so far it was every day and sometimes I let him stay for the night (he sleeps in the living room)
What would you do? Am I really being the bad one here?
The investigation is ongoing so it's not official if he did to it or not.
I feel much happier when I'm on my own with my children but I do feel under pressure to take him back because of the kids 😩

Op you are doing the right thing, this man cannot be trusted. Run for the hills.
If anything id start reducing the time he is spending with you and the kids, he needs to know its over for good.

You are well rid. Move on

Don’t take him back for the children . That never ends well for anyone

No way - he has created this situation and should be grateful for what you're allowing. Don't let his Mum guilt trip you. HE created this...not you. She's not at all bothered about you, is she?

She probably just wants him out of her house....? Any truth to that?

He still kissed someone else and put himself in a very compromising situation. What you he say if you kissed someone else?

The trust has gone so stick to your guns. He can still have a great relationship with your children.

Thank you everyone.
Yes he has created this and I asked him at least 5 times to tell me the truth he still kept saying the same lies. If it would be only a kiss on the cheek why would he not tell me in the first place after he finished work and been pulled to the office because she reported it to the management?! No! He waited until she has gone to the police 🤬😢 I just can't get over it. It really hurts and not because a kiss on the cheek but because of all the lies 😩😩
We was meant to get married in May 🤦🏻‍♀️
My family is thousands of miles away from me and I don't really have anyone to talk either.

I told him that he is not moving back in with us, I'm willing to keep our relationship friendly because I know what it is like when there is hate between the parents and I don't want my kids to go through it.

Is a kiss on the cheek sexual assault? I understand it is sexual harassment in a work setting, but to report a sexual assault to the police wouldn't it need to be more?

@k1233 she told the police that he was touching her boobs and offering sex but he is denying it. The solicitor and the police officer who interviewed him said that there is no evidence to support the allegations but it's up to the sergeant to decide what the next step going to be.