I posted a while back about my 11yo ds and his toxic friendship with another boy.
To sum it up ds had a close friend from primary school, they've gone to different secondary's but remained good friends. It became apparent to me after hearing them gaming online/phone conversations that this boy was just awful and a real Jekyll and Hyde.
For example, picking fights with ds over nothing pretending ds has said/done things that he hadn't. Ringing ds over and over and getting angry if ds didn't answer, using bad language, trying to persuade ds not to attend his clubs, telling ds he was depressed and it's all ds fault, being very spiteful to another girl and involving ds. Expressed jealousy of ds making new friends.
Ds had genuinely done nothing wrong but try to be a good friend.
I really didn't want ds having anything to do with him, but it was one of those situations when they got on they really got in well and it was difficult because of mutual friends.
Anyway, this lad has now decided to drop ds like a lead balloon. They're not speaking, I'm glad, and ds understands that this boy is just horrible, but, the problem is that even though ds has blocked him, the boy is passing messages through other friends. He's told ds he hopes he dies, called him a cunt and a bastard. Is now trying to turn other mutual friends against ds.
Ds is gutted, he's not only gutted that he's lost what he believed was a friend, but he can't understand why this lad has turned against him when he's done nothing.
We've chatted lots about healthy relationships and boundaries and all of that. But ds is really down, he wants me to speak to the lads mum but I do not want to open another can of worms.