court attendance

[leabobs]

My ex husband has now decided that he wants to see our daughter who is 9 and has asked for a court date.
He hasn't seen her since june 2015 so now hardly knows her. It is not the first time we have been to court and mediation, when hes applied then turned up on the first meeting, then when it comes to the progress review date he doesn't attend due to him not sticking to the arrangements made.
He walked out when my daughter was 3 months old and I met someone else when she was 14months which she has grown up and calls him her dad as hes been there for her through everything.
I have had caffcass ring and my daughter as said she wants to go to court to tell them she doesn't wanna see her biological dad, but caffcass more or less said I would be a bad mum if i took her. Its no place for a child and i should speak for her, but to be honest it feels like they just don't listen.
Can anyone help x

She’s unfortunately too young to be making that kind of decision and No judge is going to be impressed at having to ask a child whether or not they want to see one of their parents who is sitting in front of them.

He is clearly, at best, flakey. Just tell the truth and do as the courts ask. He will no doubt disappear again when the going gets a bit tough. Regardless of how upsetting this is for your daughter, adopting a neutral stance and allowing her to see her dad as he really is is likely to be for the best. She will never get some sense of him being amazing if he keeps letting her down which will make for less drama of the ‘my dad has said I can go and live with him’ variety during the teenage years.