To tell this Mum

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Have been friends via our sons sports for around 5 years, they are 12. Always been at different schools but now at the same secondary. They are friends but both have different sets of close friends.

I check my sons phone, l respect that other parents don’t! I do. I saw a WhatsApp chat between this other boy and some other boys and the language was vile, arranging to fight and then others piled in too. I was surprised as it was unexpected from this boy. The follow week on school something went off and friends son hit this other boy and was put in isolation at school for the day!

Should l tell the other parent what l saw, l will add that she a very young mum had previously shared concerns that her son was getting into the wrong crowd and if l heard anything about him?

I would tell her. If it was my son, I'd rather hear it from a friend, and would be grateful you'd told me.

I’d screenshot it all and remind her that she asked if you’d heard anything, then she can decide if she would like to see them.

As a parent I’d rather know so I can talk to my dc about it.

I once had a message from a mum about my DS asking if I’d checked his phone lately. I said no and she sent me screenshots of what he had sent her DS. It wasn’t bullying or anything like that, it was a txt about themselves and how they felt mentally. I was very grateful to the other mum.