To take a big step back from this relationship

[Thisendshere211]

Family member with whom things arent working/are toxic and have been from day 1. Both in 20s/30s, it feels like there is resentment, expectation, absolute absence of respect in interactions. I'm over it/done. Have tried to be model good behaviour but it's very much led by them. Am not perfect at all but really tired of it all, behaviour reverts to petty arguments and is sapping my energy.

Situation hit me when I woke up this morning: I don't have to allow it and I certainly don't have to pander to it. I like aspects of their personality but am sick of the day to day. Unfortunately i do have to see them most days so can't do a clean break.

Any suggestions please?

YANBU. Mumsnet helped me realised I don't have to have a relationship with toxic siblings who scapegoat me.

Do you live together? Can you just let the relationship drift?

I'm slightly confused by your relationship. Why do you have to see them most days?

If you can't separate yourself physically you'll have to do it emotionally. Don't rise to the bait and grey rock whenever possible.