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Original poster

to ask for something back off a friend now she's finished with it?

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canmummy · 07/09/2007 22:38

A few years back my dh and I both bought new cars and one of our stage 2 car seats was incompatible with both cars.

My friend had just had a baby so I gave it to her. Her dd has now outgrown the seat and she has no other children (yet!) to use it for. As far as I know it is just stored at her house.

The thing is, now I have a dd3 and we could really do with another car seat as her nursery cannot store them so will make life really difficult if say I drop off but dh picks up. Can I reasonably ask for it back or am I going to have to shell out for a 2nd seat? Or should I just drop a massive hint?

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SoupDragon · 07/09/2007 22:39

Say "have you still got that seat because..." and then explain the circumstances.

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canmummy · 07/09/2007 22:49

So you don't think that would be cheeky?

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milliways · 07/09/2007 22:50

Agree with SD

SoupDragon · 07/09/2007 22:52

Not at all. Saying "oy you thieving moo, give me back my carseat" would be somewhat less than polite. By phrasing it in such a way that she is helping you out of a difficult situation turns it round so she appears to be doing you a favour IYSWIM.

quint · 07/09/2007 22:52

Why would asking for it back be cheeky? Did you give it to them or loan it to them, either way, just ask

Jackstini · 07/09/2007 22:53

Not cheeky at all, it's yours! - is there any reason you think she will say no?

moljam · 07/09/2007 22:54

id just ask for it!

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canmummy · 07/09/2007 22:54

I think I'm too polite for my own good . I'll ask for it back - especially as she has no need for it now. Cheers!

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crunchie · 07/09/2007 22:57

If you felt it was cheeky 'asking'for it back. See if you could 'borow' it from her becasue xyz.

That way she can 'lend' you it back andyou can never let her have it again, or when you don't beeed it and she might agin, you could offer it again IYSWIM

glitterchick · 09/09/2007 10:28

Not cheeky at all - in fact she might be glad to get it off her hands. Probably taking up room in her gaff.

LoveAngel · 09/09/2007 10:30

Ask for it back, but be prepared that she might have thought you were giving it to her and given it away or chucked it out or something. If she still has it, I'd hope she wouldn't mind giving it back to you or even 'lending' it to you.

Chirpygirl · 09/09/2007 10:37

I lent a friend a lot of newborn baby stuff last year just before her DS was born (moses basket/baby seat/steriliser and last weekend called her and asked if I could have it back as her DS is 6 months and she isn't using them anymore.
I started by saying 'tell me if I am being cheeky but' and then just asked, she wasn't offended in the slightest.

I did say I would hand it all back again if she has another so we could carry on swapping for years!

forsale · 09/09/2007 10:42

not cheeky at all.

I lent my friend at her request a book about sex education - i had to ask for it back a couple of months ago - she cant find it! Also she has my jet wash from 12 months ago and my sainsburys baskets from June

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