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To say no to reunion

11 replies

HowToSayNoNoNo · 12/03/2020 22:31

Hi,
Uni friends have arranged a reuinion after not seeing or speaking to each other for 2 years,
I thought itd be sonething simple like a meal so when one messaged asking if i would be up for a reunion, i said "aww that would be lovely",
Just been added into a group and it's a night out in a city which would be expensive for me to get to via taxi. They all live quite locally to each other, whereas im 50 minutes away from them.

Anyways, i dont want to go. I dont want to spend my money on a night out, im not a big drinker and i am currently saving for a holiday with dp once coronavirus hopefully dies down.
I havent spoken to these girls in 2 years. There's 4 of them but i dont know how to say no after i just said "aww that would be lovely",
I cant say i cant make the dates as theyve said theyll rearrange the dates if someone cant make it. Its arranged for May.
Any advice??

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Bezalelle · 12/03/2020 22:32

Just say it wasn't quite what you had in mind, and you can't afford it.

WorraLiberty · 12/03/2020 22:34

Just be honest

HowToSayNoNoNo · 12/03/2020 22:35

I was thinking of just keeping it simple like "sorry, i'm going to have to give it a miss but I hope you all have a lovely time and are all doing well"

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ShirleyPhallus · 12/03/2020 22:39

If you’d be up for dinner why don’t you just say you’ll join them for dinner then leave them to it?

HowToSayNoNoNo · 12/03/2020 22:42

Because i realised theyre not having dinner, it's just a night out

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Pumpkintopf · 12/03/2020 22:56

If you initially wanted to go then why not see if they'd be up for meeting for a meal then they could go on to a club or whatever and you could head home??

underneaththeash · 12/03/2020 23:02

drive then - if you're not drinking.

HowToSayNoNoNo · 12/03/2020 23:04

Honestly im not up for it, i havent spoken to them in 2 years and we were really only class uni friends, didnt do anything outside of uni and they live quite far that i just know i wont be up for it

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Pumpkintopf · 12/03/2020 23:16

So it sounds like you don't want to go whatever- bit confusing that you initially suggested you were very keen then.

HowToSayNoNoNo · 12/03/2020 23:17

I was taken aback by the message; like i said before i havent seen or spoken to them in 2 years, i thought it would be lovely but on second thought it's not for me so ive asked for some advice on how to politely decline

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Bluebird29 · 12/03/2020 23:18

By May it will be cancelled anyway!

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