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AIBU?

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To have not stopped to talk?

10 replies

VeeJayBee · 12/03/2020 21:18

I’d lost my phone at home all morning, for about 3 hours. Went out with two year old DD in the car for a quick blast in the park before her nap which is usually 11.15/30 ish. She’s been a nightmare sleeper since day 1 and her naps are precious to me (I got about four hours broken sleep last night) and anyone who knows us, knows this. Came back in the car to find MIL’s car on the drive, she often parks there as her church is over the road and due to road restrictions nowhere to park mid week during the day. Fine. I’ve always said it’s fine. She sometimes asks, she sometimes doesn’t, I don’t really care that she doesn’t check sometimes, if I needed her to move I’d just call her. I’ve told her this. Nevertheless, whenever she hasn’t asked and I’ve seen her she acts like an imbecile naughty school girl like she’s been caught trying to get away with something. I don’t get it but they are a bit weird.

Anyway back to the point... pulled up on the driveway with my DD who had fallen asleep I the car (as was the plan) who I wanted to transfer to her bed rigour waking her and have to do it pronto as if she’s been asleep for more than five mins she won’t transfer. Some of you might think this is crazy but I’m just doing my best and want the best chance of a rest when she’s asleep. MIL comes bouncing over all loud and screechy like a school girl explaining why she’s there. I quickly close the car door so she doesn’t wake my DD. She said, is she asleep? I said “yeah, sorry, got to get her in”, very politely and that was that. Eventually found my phone and did think id text just to say sorry I couldn’t speak earlier and assumed she’d messaged me just checking ok to park on the drive. No text from her, in her eyes she was trying to pull a fast one (no fast one to pull, she’ll never learn that cos I don’t care if she checks or not!!!) My husband wants me to apologise in case she thought I was being rude for not stopping to talk! I think he’s dancing around them like he always does. Was IBU?

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VeeJayBee · 12/03/2020 21:22

Just to add, when I say was gonna talk to say sorry to not talk earlier, I don’t mean cos I was being rude, just that we could chat. So not sorry in the way my husband thinks I should be sorry.

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Ponoka7 · 12/03/2020 21:22

I don't think that you need to apologise, as such, just text and give a brief explanation.

VeeJayBee · 12/03/2020 21:23

@ponoka7 - good idea

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TorkTorkBam · 12/03/2020 21:26

I think it was all pretty self-explanatory. No drama in my eyes.

Manchestermanchester · 12/03/2020 21:36

Older people aren’t as quick with mobile phones I find.

Why don’t you just send a message to her to get your partner of your back. But how did he find out?

VeeJayBee · 12/03/2020 21:49

@manchestermanchester - I told him I saw his mum and then told him in an anecdotal way not because I thought it was an issue. No drama in my mind!

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Rosebel · 12/03/2020 21:53

But you already explained and apologised when you saw her so don't see any need to do it again.

Manchestermanchester · 12/03/2020 22:10

@VeeJayBee
When I’m told something I go into problem solving mode. Maybe he did as well.

Pumpkintopf · 12/03/2020 22:27

Is it really such a big deal to drop a quick text to say something like -

sorry I couldn't chat but had to get DD in for her nap - you know she doesn't settle if I don't do it straightaway and I really needed the break having only had four hours sleep last night. Catch up soon.

Cherrysoup · 12/03/2020 22:31

I’d text her to yet again tell her that she can park there whenever she wants and she doesn’t need to apologise for it, as you’ve told her-multiple times. Her bouncing over screeching every time would drive me NUTS.

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