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What to do about this parcel

16 replies

GaaaaarlicBread · 12/03/2020 12:01

Not really an AIBU but not sure where to post.
Over a year ago my husband and I bought our first home, when we looked round it was what we dreamed of. When we finally moved in after long delays with the seller (who seemed ok at the time), it was like the money pit . Absolute disaster, the previous owner had left piles of rubbish hidden in the wardrobes, the garage was full of crap he’d left behind that he said he would take, he left rubbish hidden under rubble in the garden , a mattress behind the shed. Everything was falling apart . We had decorators come and they said he did a ‘good job at hiding the poor condition of the house when you looked round’. When we told the solicitors they said we couldn’t claim anything as we had exchanged contracts , but none of this was there when we moved in. Anyway a year later we’ve sorted the mess, renovated the house. All is fine. We still receive what seem like important letters for the previous owner that we always return to sender again which is a pain but they just keep coming. We had some parcels arrive for him last year in April, about 4 months after we’d moved in so we gave him the benefit of the doubt that he’d not changed all his details everywhere. These were massive parcels , I’m talking some being 5ft tall, very heavy, not easy to carry to the post office. I contacted him at his business that he owns (he said I could when we moved in should we need to) asking him what he’d like me to do with it and and he just turned up, and said ‘let’s have a look at what work you’ve done then’ and started to walk in. I was home alone and I said ‘it’s our house now I’d rather you don’t come in, here’s yours parcel’ and he said ‘why... are you scared?’ He lent in and went ‘it smells nice anyway, I can smell fresh paint’ . I told my husband and he said don’t contact him again and don’t answer the door if I’m home alone to him.
Anyway we’ve had more parcels come over time and he’s just turned up for them, saying he knows they’re here as if we’ve been hiding them but we haven’t , we’ve contacted the delivery companies and we’ve left them by the side of the house for collection and he claimed we shouldn’t do that because they’re expensive .
And again today another one has come but in the name of his son now, what do I do with it as It was just posted through, it’s a small parcel so fit through the letterbox so we didn’t see who delivered it and it’s just wrapped up with a sticker saying tracked , and his name, it doesn’t same Hermes or anything so I don’t know who to contact ?
I’m scared they’ll turn up as I’m pregnant and feel more vulnerable .

Sorry it’s long

Thanks in advance

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ConcentricCircles · 12/03/2020 12:17

Something is decidedly dodgy - he is also decidedly dodgy, so you are absolutely right in not letting him into your house - don't contact him, don't open the door to him.

Re the parcels - they are not your problem. if one arrives, refuse, refuse, and refuse again to take them, or if they arrive when you are out then put them out to the edge of your drive and leave them there. If they disappear, then again, not your problem.

I would also see a solicitor and ask them to send him a letter stating that the house is your property now and that he has no right to use it as a postal address, and to therefore cease doing so.

GaaaaarlicBread · 12/03/2020 12:19

@ConcentricCircles thank you so much , I’ll contact a solicitor ASAP
Thank you!

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frazzledasarock · 12/03/2020 12:22

return parcels to sender.

dont accept anything for him.

TheReluctantCountess · 12/03/2020 12:28

Don’t accept any parcels for him.
As for the one which has been put through the door, I’d put ‘not at this address’ on it and put it back in the post box. Not your problem.

NorthernBirdAtHeart · 12/03/2020 13:30

Yes refuse to accept any parcels. He sounds odious, hope you get it sorted soon

underfall · 12/03/2020 13:34

Call the police if he turns up again.

chipmunkcalling · 12/03/2020 14:22

My dp is a courier, he deals with this alot, the guy is commuting fraud, especially if he's ordering high value goods to an address he had nothing to do with anymore. All you can do is refuse the delivery at the door, or if they leave it safe, which high value goods shouldn't be left anywhere, then contact the courier company, and tell then he doesn't live there anymore, and hasn't for a while. The courier company will then have to find him, you can do it all without having any contact with the previous owner. Why he's still having stuff delivered to an address that he no longer has any association with is pretty dodgy tbh, I would Google your address and see what comes up. I've had something similar, apparently there's 15 different people living at my address, one business, and someone that's been chased by bailiffs. I've been here nearly 3 years and recently had them knock at my door, I had to show them my tenancy agreement before they'd back off. The business is apparently still registered at my address, when I have tried to get in touch with Companies House to get it taken off, but no luck so far. I feel your frustration OP.

TorkTorkBam · 12/03/2020 15:03

Leave them out in the rain. Call the courier company saying you have a wrong delivery. Don't even talk about the fact you know who the person is and where he lives. Never talk to the bloke again.

Yourteaisgettingcold · 12/03/2020 15:08

Refuse parcels for him at the door, leave a note somewhere visible telling delivery people that Mr X (and his son) dont live there so no parcels in their names should be left. To be honest, if they're just leaving them outside anyway they arent your responsibility anyway.

GaaaaarlicBread · 12/03/2020 15:51

Thanks everyone , I forgot to add when they’ve been delivered first - the first couple of times were on the same day when we were expecting bathroom equipment to be delivered , so we didn’t even check the label until DH said ‘right let’s let the plumber know our a shower bits are here’ and when I went to call the plumber I noticed on the parcel it wasn’t our name. Then another time my grandma was here waiting for our carpet fitter when DH and I were at work, another one came and she just accepted it at the door without thinking .
Other times they’ve been left without us knowing .
A couple of times they’ve just been posted through and on a few occasions we have accepted them without thinking , especially when we are expecting parcels ourself.
It’s such a nightmare @chipmunkcalling when you google his business , our home address is still on google linked to him!

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chipmunkcalling · 12/03/2020 15:55

@itsemily I think there's a way of contacting Google services about that, but not sure how, lemme see if I can find it for you. It would be good to get rid of any trace of him being at your address, just in case he is as dodgy as he seems and you end up on the same situation I've had, as many recovery companies use Google and government records to find people.

Freshnewus · 12/03/2020 15:58

Can you put a note on your door saying "please do not deliver anything for Mr XXX.
This person is harassing us and keeps posting us things"

overnightangel · 12/03/2020 16:01

He sounds as dodgy as can be: dumping and hiding stuff after selling the house, turning up unannounced, being creepy with you, still getting stuff delivered to your house... nothing to add to the good advice above other than to say I wouldn’t take any of this lightly , good luck

chipmunkcalling · 12/03/2020 16:01

support.google.com/business/contact/business_redressal_form?hl=en

Not sure how to do a click link, but there's this which may help you.

GaaaaarlicBread · 12/03/2020 16:05

Thanks so much for the link, I’ll get that sorted !

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Isthistrueor · 12/03/2020 16:32

Put a note on the door saying ‘no parcels for Mr x please’ as people do with no junk mail.

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