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AIBU: to expect my partner to be overly friendly with people I've had issues with?

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Howow · 12/03/2020 00:26

AIBU: to expect my partner to be overly friendly with people I've had issues with?

Just to clarify:
I don't mean people he knows but more people in my circle - e.g. flatmates or acquaintances of mine (i.e. people who he only met through me) who are rude, creepy, uses my things without asking etc. to me (and some others) for no real reason (as far as I'm concerned). AIBU to expect my partner not to keep initiating greetings/small talk with such people especially when said person ignores my partner and I feel its somewhat enabling the person to act more unreasonably towards me?

Of course if the person greeted my partner, I wouldn't expect my partner to ignore the person but partner continually making the first move towards someone who's behaved unfairly and rudely towards me like that is something I can't stand, esp it's not like my partner even knows that person and it's me having to continue deal with this acquaintance when my partner goes home.

Obviously, if it was someone who was a close friend of my partner's who took a dislike to me, that would be harder to make someone choose.

In all other respects, partner is fine but seems to have no "integrity" in treating people how they treat others - too much mr.nice to everyone, my partner is.

OP posts:
attatiti · 12/03/2020 00:28

Depends how many people you have issues with

CyberNan · 12/03/2020 00:32

so basically he doesn't support you...? or does he think that you and your issues are unreasonable and he doesn't want to collude with that..?

you could be being unreasonable, but then again, you may not be being unreasonable. just how many people are you having issues with? if its lots, then maybe you should look at the common denominator..

feministmyarse · 12/03/2020 00:34

Another post on this?

user1494182820 · 12/03/2020 00:57

Are you 15?

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