I've lost faith in having a meaningful relationship with a man

[DaughterOfHekate]

AIBU to have lost faith in having a meaningful relationship with a man

I've gotten into this state based on not just my experience but from what I've read on the mumsnet boards too

From men expecting their partner to be the perfect wifey WHILST also bringing home a substantial %of the family income (personal experience of this so tick)

To men not wanting kids but doing sweet FA to ensure they don't impregnate someone they have no intention on making a life with (tick)

To men acting like sex crazed dogs but look down on women who embrace their own sexuality (tick)

And men who acknowledge they'll "happily stick their dick in ANYTHING" only to then pull a move on you moments later (tick)

Thankfully I'm bi so hopefully won't face a sexless future but can't deny most of my experiences with men have left me more than a little jaded

YANBU. I felt the same, was happily single and wouldn’t countenance a relationship unless they enhanced my life. Not in a monetary way but brought something to the table.

I’m now happily married. Is he perfect? No but then neither am I. He is however 1000 times better than most of the knuckle dragging arseholes I read about on here.

YANBU. Never a happier day than when my wife and I recognised our feelings for each other (we are both female) and decided to be together.

Just left a knuckle dragging arsehole and have had by fair share of horrible experiences including rape and then how society responds to that (ie everyone questioning you, not your rapist). And honestly I feel done with men. I'm also bi and feel lucky I can choose not to date them but still have meaningful relationships and a sex life.

I know 'not all men' but society as it stands is quite bleak to look at sometimes.

On the flip side my eldest DS is turning out to be a respectful sweetheart and I do know decent men. So there is hope. I think a lot of it comes down to undoing a lot of socialisation and not letting young boys grow up thinking of women as less and their needs as more.

My ex was not an arsehole, there was just not much there, IYKWIM. He's asexual and although I had lots of sex with men and it was amazing at times (it wasn't with him, we came together as we both wanted children), when it came down to it, I'm far happier sharing life and love with her (before I met her, I'd never considered it, she just sort of crept up on me).

Well obviously peop!e are only going to.post bad experience ,s on here not all.men are as you describe ,whilst yes there are a great many arse holes out there ,lots then are perfectly decent human being ,s .

Off course YABU, but at the end of the day you are only hurting yourself.
Mns is about broaching things and normally this will be things that upset the posters. Like the news, who wants to know all the good stuff, it doesn't sell!!
Also there is a lot of gender bashing here , and the sexist attitudes against men by some very vocal members can be nothing short of disgraceful.

Also bi
Thank god
More orgasms, less crap to deal with
I think I just want sex friendships though in future, I find women emotionally hard work.
Never happy lol

How is she only hurting herself, Cheese? She's bi. So date only women, OP .

@mauriceandAlec

If she is happy to date only women than go for it and happy life.

But she is not, she doesn't mind dating men, and by the fact she wrote this is sad that she is now afraid to do so.
Basing this view on some chattering of ppl you dont even know is not a good idea.
There will be as many decent men as there are decent women out there, and the same ratio of horrible ones too.

And men who acknowledge they'll "happily stick their dick in ANYTHING" only to then pull a move on you moments later (tick)

I didn’t get this one?

God that’s depressing. Sorry you’ve had bad experiences but not all men are like this. Nobody’s perfect but it sounds like you’ve encountered some choice arseholes.

Well, Cheese, maybe it's time for a change for her .