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Deepblues · 11/03/2020 12:41

I can’t seem to put my finger on why and I feel like I’m being unreasonable.

My partner moved in with my family a couple of months ago - he moved jobs/areas to go from long distance to living together.

He’s not a bad person, he’s madly in love with me and loves my family/they love him, he’s kind and sensitive.

There’s just a few things that have pissed me off and I can’t seem to drop like he’s bought a new fancy car which has made him skint for the foreseeable future - we’ve not gone out/done anything for ages (must of been way before Xmas).

He just likes to mope about after dinner (he cooks) playing xbox/watching shit on tv.

His hobby takes up pretty much the majority of the weekend with a few hours either side.

He went away at the weekend and I really enjoyed and dreaded him coming home.

We’ve planned to go on holiday and I’ve spent a bloody fortune on it/still paying it off.

He loves cooking and is always feeding me but that’s the extent of him helping around the house. He won’t take initiative to take the bin out etc.

He’s planned a weekend away and it’s all based around his hobby/his family.

His work ethic is much to be desired - works full time but does the bare minimum - always taking long lunches/skiving.

They’re all little niggles. The car I spoke to him about it at the time but he reckons he’s able to pay it off and already starting to struggle. He’s given up a lot to move in with me and it will break him if we break up. I’m just seriously struggling to give him eye contact since he’s moved in.

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PickAChew · 11/03/2020 12:48

You've had your eyes opened so don't feel bad about your reaction. This will be as good as it gets. He might have made a big move but he now has sex on tap and cheap or free accommodation, so wi win for him, in that respect, which is why he spent all his money on a ridiculous car.

AryaStarkWolf · 11/03/2020 12:53

All added up they're not really small issues. Are you paying for the holiday by yourself while he's bought himself a fancy car?

Also, not doing anything around the house except cooking would be a deal breaker for me on it's own. I wouldn't stay with someone who thinks I'm a servant

HollowTalk · 11/03/2020 12:57

So now that you're living with him, you're realising what he's like?

TheFastandTheCurious · 11/03/2020 13:01

Does he contribute financially?

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