I feel like I have to ask if this is normal behaviour or whether My friend is being unreasonable because she’s making me feel like it’s ok so I’m confused .
My husband and I have a friend , she’s a little older than us but not by far. I’ll call her Jane. We then have another friend who’s the same age as us, I’ll call her Sarah. We made friends with Sarah after we met Jane but they work together. Jane has started being really unreasonable to myself and my husband since she’s found out we are friends with Sarah as she works with her and doesn’t like her , except Sarah has zero idea why Jane dislikes her so much as she’s never done anything wrong so we’ve put it down to jealously Sarah has got children, she’s married, owns a house. Jane doesn’t and she’s always been funny with Sarah when she found out she’s ‘done more with her life than hers. My husband and I are really close to Sarah, talk daily (me more than my husband), we are sociable and meet up. We have much more in common. But since Jane found out we are friends she’s been rude to me, made comments like ‘having fun with your new best friend?’ , being rude to DH too, and he hates conflict as do I.
Is this normal behaviour ? I don’t think it is and I’ve never come across it before unless it was in the playground in bloomin year 1 if you didn’t invite a friend to a sleepover 😏
But she’s making me feel like I’m in the wrong having another friend . This isn’t a joke either and I hope I’ve given enough info but please ask me for more details if needed, although I’m on my way to work so won’t be able to check in for a few hours.
We haven’t done anything to make Jane feel left out either because why should we invite her out if she hates Sarah?? And she’s making me not want to go out with her anyway as she’s being so vile .
Like I say she’s older than us too.
Not sure how to deal with it , shall I just distance myself from Jane ?