To contact police

[lifeis48]

Tonight an adult stopped their car, jumped out, grabbed my daughter accusing her of wrongdoing, wouldn't let her go for a few minutes and followed her in their car after. AIBU to contact police to make a statement.

For the people having a go at me instead of offering advice to the OP... in my book it is absolutely not ok to ever shout, curse, swear and intimidate a child. Speak to the parents if you have a problem.

My visit consisted of asking the woman for her version of events and telling her to come direct to me in future if she had a problem with my child.

The point I was trying to make was if a man had done that to the OP's daughter the outcome would have been a very different.

The point I was trying to make was if a man had done that to the OP's daughter the outcome would have been a very different.

I don't think it would be 'very' different at all.

He probably would have got a visit from police when they could find the time. They'd listen to his side of it and then give him a slap on the wrist in exactly the same way they would if a woman did it.

Adults get pissed off with anti-social behaviour (which includes walking in front of cars), no matter what sort of genitals they possess.

Maybe the mother who wrongly grabbed your daughter is being treated the way Fiona Pilkington was in Leicestershire and is also receiving no help from the authorities?

Yes, she acted very wrongly, but what is happening to that family to make her behave like that?

@TheRealMrsHopper what did you do about your daughter walking out in front of the car just out of interest? Your scenario isnt the same as the OPs at all. Your daughter walked out in front of a car and was, rightly, told off for it. The OPs daughter wasn't even involved in throwing stones and was physically restrained by the woman. Absolutely not the same thing at all

I have a feeling your DD is one of those precious little girls who can do no wrong in your eyes

@TheRealMrsHopper

I hate the way some kids cross the road without looking, it's flipping scary! I should think that's why the woman shouted at your daughter. I've felt like shouting at kids doing that, but I wouldn't ever do it.

Instead of being angry with her for shouting at your daughter, tell your daughter that she has to be more careful when crossing the toad.

People are making a lot of assumptions here. Of course my daughter was told off by me and told to be careful by me and told what could have happened by me, she didn't intentionally step onto the road, it was an incident coming out of school. Thankfully nothing happened and she was ok but of course we told her what could have happened. And I am far from one of those parents who think their children can do no wrong. However I would never ever shout and swear and follow a child home and don't think it's acceptable for anyone to do so.

As with the OP the woman knew us so should have came straight to us with the problem to be dealt with.

The woman and my daughter apologised to each other and that was the end of it.

This post isn't about me it's about telling the OP my story and that I dealt with it direct rather than go to the police. Concentrate on advising the OP.

Police! Now! Why do you even need to ask?

I wish someone would give my 16 year old ditz, who is apparently 10' high and bullet proof a very serious bloody scare for walking in front of cars.

Going to London with her is heartstopping. Her reasoning is that her traffic awareness and road safety is clearly absolutely fine because she hasn't been hit. Yet.

But in response to OP, yes, definitely inform the police. These people need to understand that they need to go through the proper channels, not just go around randomly assaulting people they think might have gone done them wrong.

Next step would be making statement, person involved going to station to be interviewed and then PPS deciding if goes to court. Do I want to put a child through that? I feel like police were trying to make us aware that she has been stressed lately and this is why it happened, Even after admitting to grabbing my daughter and being told that was assault, they are still unapologetic and arrogant about the situation and that is what makes me want to take it further. Caution and interview would be enough. What are chances of going to court.

It won't go to court. If I'm honest I think maybe your child had been Involved at some point or in the vicinity hence the woman going on one. No excuse and I'd still contact police but if tell your dd to stay area from the area in future.

Go as far as the CPS take it show your daughter that no one is allowed to touch her without her permission.
This happened to my son he eas just walking past an incident and got pushed and the dog he was walking at the time was kicked.

@LolaDarkdestroyer and now you are also accusing OP's child simply because she was in the area. Let"s just go slander people, shall we? People like you is why I didn't in particular trust adults when I was a child.

@Loladarkdestroyer..i'm afraid you're very mistaken there!! My daughter was on her way to the shop and was seen talking to another child who the mother believed was involved. The reason for this is because she knew her from school and said hello. When the mother flew up in the car they scatter and my daughter remained so take your accusation elsewhere!! We have already received a message from the father saying they didn't accuse her of anything but the wife still grabbed her !

My daughter is never in the area she was walking to the shop...that is allowed yes?!?

This is around the corner...so my child should refrain from walking near her home now..jesus