To not ask their name?

[frostedviolets]

So, there is a parent I talk to on the school run, she’s really nice and I talk to her most mornings and afternoons including the walk home so a sizeable portion of each weekday.

Thing is though, I don’t actually know her name which can make conversation tricky, especially when it’s her husband that turns up and I have to keep referring to her as ‘your wife’ which just feels really rude and impersonal.

I know I should just ask her name but it’s bern so king I feel really embarrassed to do it

I’m worried that it might come across rude or weird to point out after all this time that I don’t actually know her name..?

say 'btw did I tell you my name is Frosted?' and she should say hers...

say 'btw did I tell you my name is Frosted?' and she should say hers...

I want to but it’s been literally months! 🤦🏻‍♀️
You don’t think I’ll come across strange after all this time?

I always just say to people that I'm really sorry, but I'm great with faces but not names. People are usually fine Just ask her!

"I tried to find you on FB but couldn't find you- could you friend request me? "

"It would be good to have coffee after drop off some time. Could you type in your number?" (And hope they add a name to the contact )

I'd just be totally honest, I've done this before after months. I just said 'btw what's your name? I realised the other day I only know you as Kate's mum which is awful' - she laughed and told me, simple

I have no suggestions to add, but something to make your situation appear less uncommon.

I have a male friend who regularly goes to gay clubs where there a lot of regulars. He has hooked up with one particular man at the end of an evening about half a dozen times over a couple of years, and they have both been to one another houses. My friend has no idea what the man's name is, and really doesn't know how to ask casually

Say you need her number for a play date or something? And then ask how you spell her name although awks if it's pam or something

I had this once and tried the phone number method. I got THE weirdest look when she handed the phone back and said I couldn’t spell her name so she literally was like ‘K, A, R, E, N’
I miss called her so she’d have my number too and she goes ehh all this time and I’ve never asked your name 😂😂

He has hooked up with one particular man at the end of an evening about half a dozen times over a couple of years, and they have both been to one another houses. My friend has no idea what the man's name is, and really doesn't know how to ask casually

😂😂

@ellendegeneres that's so funny

The phone idea is perfect.

My DD is 12, but I've still got people in my phone as 'Amy's Mum' and 'Jake's childminder' from when I first got to know them in reception!

"I tried to find you on FB but couldn't find you- could you friend request me?”

Nooooo do not do this!!!

Take someone else with you then say “this is my husband Ken.....” then HE says “and what’s your name?” And you go “oh so sorry! Ha ha ha” and that’s that

I wouldn't be embarrassed by this. I'd just lightheartedly say "Do you know I realised something the other day. We've been chatting on the school run for months now, and I don't actually know your name. How crazy is that?" Then laugh about it and, if she doesn't know your name, say "So for the record, my name is Frosted.." I get the same sort of thing when I walk my dog. I walk with the same people day in day out but we don't always formally introduce ourselves, so it's Benny's mum, or Ziggy's dad sort of thing. I've often asked their name after weeks or months and no-one has ever minded.

Say remind me of your name again, and when she says “Betty“ or whatever it is smile and say of course you remember her first name but the surname has completely escaped you.

Thanks to @HopeYouStepOnaLego, great answer. It’s basically how I deal with ladies I meet at the gym. “Oh my, we’ve been meeting up for weeks and I’ve never told you my name” Never fails.

I get this all the time! I know the names of the children, but rarely the mums! There's one lady who lives 3 doors down from me that I met in a baby group. Our children are now at preschool. I asked the preschool teacher! She laughed at me, had to look it up on her file as she didn't know it either, but she did tell me.

Or, if you take her phone number, you could find her on WhatsApp...

Just say 'not sure if we ever exchanged names I'm Frosted' she should say her name and if she says that she told you before just apologise and say you would forget your head if it wasn't screwed on.

Can you ask your child to ask hers?

Ask her husband?

'aah, thingy, I've had a mental block and can't remember your name! Oh, Betty, duh! Yes, I'm Jack... been a hard week....'

Does she know yours?

Just say "I'm so sorry, we talk all the time and I don't know your name"

No need for elaborate ruses.

Can't you ask someone else? I hate this - the time to ask a name without awkwardness has gone and you have no idea how to bring it up again!