Back story is that husband left me seven months ago out of the blue. Another woman appeared on the scene straight away but in reality our marriage was dead in the water for six months previous. He is a workaholic who was a disinterested and useless husband and father. I can see that I am well rid after months of therapy.my role was mother, housekeeper, administrator and sole carer to our children, all while working full time. He left the house before we woke and arrived home when we were all asleep. Weekends were spent watching him sleeping/ on his phone/ disappearing for hours on end. I've spent many months figuring out why I put up with him and his anger and resentment at having to be part of a family and I now understand that family didn't fulfill him. He's moved on. The love is dead for me.
However, I'm terrified of getting out there again onto the dating scene.I would dearly love a male companion to enjoy my free time. I have zero interest in marriage or blending families in the future, as it stands for now in any event.
How or where do I start? I have lots of lovely family and friends but do not meet their male friends or relations often.
I am Swamped with my own kids lives and supporting them at the moment but I am free every second weekend and a couple of evenings per week for a few hours .
I'm scared of old and too embarrassed to join at the moment.
I am also worried in case I fall into the same enabling trap again.
What deal breakers did you have ?what did you learn having been fucked over and what did you ensure you'd never tolerate again? Did you feel vulnerable like I do at times?
Sorry for long story. Hope you can advise. Thank you x