To feel a bit blah about my birthday?

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I really don't want to sound ungrateful, I'm not, I'm really grateful that we even did anything but just feeling a bit meh about it all.

It was my 30th yesterday (not a huge thing I know) but it all seemed a bit lack luster, for the last few years I've spent it alone because DH was working and DD was in school, friends were busy so this year was the first year I actually got to spend it properly with my family.

DH asked me what I wanted for my birthday and gave him a few ideas and he asked me what I wanted to do on the day so we organised an activity which I really enjoyed.

In the morning I got a couple of 'mum' gifts, not something you'd get yourself but love because it's from the kids but nothing from DH, he said the activity was my gift from him.we get home from said activity and I have to cook everyone dinner (our tradition is the birthday person doesn't have to do anything on the day) and then he was so tired he went to bed so I ended up putting DD to bed and then sitting downstairs looking after DS on my own before heading off to bed late because he was so grouchy.

I don't know I just thought more of an effort would have been made for my 30th, for DH's I organised a big party (something I said I would love for mine) and got him great gifts and I feel as tho mine has been overlooked again because we're entering our expensive few months (multiple birthdays) and just financially recovering from Christmas.

I really enjoyed the day but just feeling a bit blah about it. Completely prepared to be told ibu but just needed to rant it out.

Happy 30th for yesterday :)
I'm really sorry you feel this way but i can see why it has made you feel a bit crap!
Especially as it's your 30th so i think that is a milestone to celebrate.
My other half recently had his 30th and we organised a surprise party for him, he had no clue! He got lots of gifts and it was a lovely weekend!
My 30th is in June and i'm currently 32+3 weeks pregnant, i will have had the baby by then but feel mine is going to be a bit of a let down as i can't go out drinking, have a night surprise party as i'll have a 4 week old baby to look after. So although mine hasn't happened yet and may be great i'm kind of hoping mines not a let down.

Do you have extended family? did they do anything nice for you?
Do you think he's playing something down that may be happening this weekend say?

Op I hear you... My dh went above and beyond for mine last year and I was 6 weeks pregnant. I would be honest and tell him how you feel, maybe when you've had the baby he will do something special with you? Happy birthday x

Happy birthday OP!
Are you pregnant? Asking as you posted this in the Pregnancy section.
My birthday was last week and both husband and I were working so didn't really celebrate it much. But because I'm heavily pregnant I probably wouldn't have wanted to do much anyway. We also agreed not to do presents this year due to all the new baby expenses.

Perhaps your OH was thinking along the same lines? He should have consulted with you though! X

Oh dear, no, I'm not pregnant, this was meant for aibu so no idea how it got here lol

I was pregnant last year on my birthday and we actually seemed to do more then than this year, just all seems a bit oh ok iyswim didn't even get a cake lol

My parents didn't call, tried to call them but no answer, ongoing feud with my older sister and brother (nothing I've done but that's a whole other thread) so no contact from them and younger sister is coming to stay for a couple of days this weekend but it's so she can go to a concert that's playing here so not really a visit.

Nope nothing planned for later as we're all booked up with weddings and other stuff until July

Happy Birthday! It was my 30th a couple of weeks ago. Family made a fuss but only one friend wished me happy birthday! These milestone birthdays have a lot to answer for! I think I was treated well (got things i wanted) but I was bummed I forgot champagne! DH said we can get some anyway.
I felt a bit blah but I have just recently had a baby. Still a few lbs heavier than I'd like, look knackered, breastfeeding. I wished it Could be later in the year. I was upset at how ugly I looked I looked in my photos. My plan is to celebrate again later in the year when baby is less dependent and I don't look like shit.

I think your husband behaved badly on your birthday. You shouldn't have cooked. My husband was a shit on one of my birthdays once. I gave him hell. He likes a nice fuss on his. He hasn't done it again. Tell your husband how you feel.

I’ve always organised my own birthdays (well since being an adult) and always have a great time. I plan parties for big birthdays and mini breaks and socials for my other birthdays. I don’t understand it when people say their birthday was not very good if they haven’t planned anything nice for themselves.
We all now when our own birthdays are so why not a few months before think of what we’d like to do and then plan it?

This could of been written about my birthday the other week (without the activity) birthdays are such an anti climax when you start adulting 😖

Happy Birthday! Tell your dh that you're angry with him for making no effort. He sounds very inconsiderate.

@Lippy1234 i do agree to a certain extent but i think for milestone birthdays then it is nice for family/partner to plan something. Whether that's a surprise or not. 30th is a big one for me so i would be happy for someone else to arrange it, next year it will be like any other birthday and i can arrange it.

It’s too risky though, what if nothing is arranged? I just had my 50th and planned my own party a few days before the actual day and then went on a mini break for my birthday and booked myself a massage, a concert and slap up meal for the day itself. It was absolutely fab. I did the same sort of thing for my 40th, a big party and then a cruise on my actual birthday.

Happy 30th OP. It's my 30th this summer, I've never made a fuss before but I've just come out of the other side of pregnancies and breastfeeding and now my youngest is two I'm happy leaving them with my parents. So anyway, I've told DH I want a fuss but I've also booked a weekend away for us, a weekend away for me to visit my best friend and I'll plan a day with the kids at the time. If you want to do something do it, treat yourself

I hear you, it was my birthday yesterday and I didn't get one present. DH just said "you didn't tell me what you wanted" - well what I really wanted was for someone to spend 10 minutes thinking about what I would like, and failing that, a box of chocolates would have been a good stop gap! He bought a card but forgot to fill it out so DD did it after he'd left for work. I then spent all day cleaning and ferrying kids about and cooking dinner. It was shit.

It was my birthday yesterday too, I made breakfast, lunch and dinner for everyone. My present was something I ordered for myself that DH gave me the money for in the end. I spent the afternoon helping DS with homework while DH watched tv. Luckily I'm not too worried about my birthday but, just once, I'd like to feel a bit special and have somebody think about what I may want.

That's pretty shit and your DH should be ashamed of himself. Tell him in no uncertain terms how he's made you feel.