To not want to know about BIL cheating

[Pjsarelife]

BIL been caught cheating again slept with Another girl twice over a year ago. Now been caught texting another women. Both girls from work.

MIL rings us up every single time to tell us he's at it again but it just makes everything awkward because SIL stays with him. And I absolutely hate his guts. I would rather not know at all.

I'd be honest and tell her you don't want to know. Could your DH just take the call and deal with his mother?

I wouldn't want to know but maybe MIL needs to vent. Just try and let it wash over you and hope that he eventually gets his comeuppance.

So mil rings to complain about her own son?

It's nice in a way she's not brushing over his behaviour (so many stories on here about the man's family turning their backs on the woman, even though the man cheated) but it's nothing to do with you!!

I'd speak to DH.

How is she finding out anyway? Is SIL telling her?

She's not really complaining though it's more like gossiping.

I'd feel the same as you. I hate cheaters and once I dislike someone I can't really pretend that I do like them. Family gatherings would be very difficult for me if I was expected to pretend as though I liked BIL. In fact, knowing me, i would probably say something to him anyway.

I do have a good relationship with SIL and i feel bad not checking on her but then I don't want her to know that we know. No BIL admitted he got caught out so he's told his mum.

Who does she ring? You or your dh? If she rings dh then tell him you don't want to hear about it anymore. If she rings you then tell her.

Oh that's not very nice - I take it BIL is biological child?

I'd cut her dead and definitely get dh to have a word

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It's not like you are keeping his secret though. His wife knows. I would prefer know.