Joint Facebook accounts....

[PunkyPirate]

Just scream at me that there's no trust in the relationship?

Or maybe not that into facebook and you know have an actual real life they prefer?

Rather than assume affair I presume strong relationship and just arent arsed.

I know 2 couples like this. Not elderly but are globe trotters with very full lives. They dont post very often but loved up.

One of them cheated. I know two that have joint FB accounts.

Or maybe not that into facebook and you know have an actual real life they prefer?

Rather than assume affair I presume strong relationship and just arent arsed.

Really? That's quite a leap is it literally takes minutes to make your own FB account.

Plus, it sounds as though you're saying anyone who takes a few minutes to make their own account, doesn't prefer real life?

Weird

Disclaimer: I'm not on FB.

A friend has, not exactly a joint account, but her arsehole H has her password. She's asked me to make a page so we can be 'friends' as we share a hobby (Don't ask, don't want to out myself 🙄). Nope. Don't want her arsehole husband seeing into my life.

I think I'd feel the same about a joint page if I was friends with only 1/2 of the couple.

100% agree.

They also scream sad fucks joined att he hip to me too

Isn’t it just an old people thing? Like shared email addresses?
I’d find odd in anyone below 65.

See, older couples who use it to see the photos of grandkids and so on I get.

But anything else just screams trust issues or one of them has cheated at me.

My oh doesn't know my pass word but he knows the code to my phone as he uses Spotify when at mine and my phones linked to the speaker so easier. The Facebook app and messenger are logged in to my account t and he could check if he wanted too. I have nothing to hide. But he doesn't as he trusts me. And same with him.

I would hate the thought of messaging a friend who has a joint account and her partner who I might not know, or want to share certain things with, could read it.

I know 2 couples who share FB accounts with their spouse. Definitely not about trust, it's more "look at us, we're joined at the hip. We do everything together. We're insufferably smug and don't realise how boring we are". One have even given themselves a nickname, not this but along the lines of "The Biking Brums" because they cycle together. Like I said, insufferable and boring.

I would hate the thought of messaging a friend who has a joint account and her partner who I might not know, or want to share certain things with, could read it

Or who shares their password with their spouse because 'we share everything!'. Or as with my friend, because their spouse is an abusive arsehole.

It's up to the person I guess, but I think that anyone on FB who has given their password to another person should let people know that someone other than them might see their messages. I didn't know that my friend's husband had hers until my DH told me as part of a conversation we were having.

DH was a friend of her DH but my DH has cut him off because of his abusiveness.

my dm has a random inexplicable hatred for mark Zuckerberg so shes protesting

I'm glad someone else does, thought it was just me. There's just something about him, hes just a horrible person. The way he allows people's data to be handled as well is shocking, he doesn't give a shit.

Sorry off topic. I agree on the joint fb accounts, unless they are old or one is useless at technology, it's no doubt because one cheated.

I had one, since come off Facebook.

Both 30s, neither cheated, both couldn't really be arsed but we went travelling and family wanted to see what we were upto.

We have the same friends and family definitely not joined at the hip.

I understand but it's a shame about the stigma that comes with joint accounts I.e one must have cheated.

It never really bothered me what people thought of us having one we just didn't see it as a big deal.

Screams to me one of them has shagged someone else!

I suppose thinking about it neither of us really used it at all to post it was just we were here on this date here are the photos..which is why we got rid of it.

I see a joint Facebook profile and immediately ask myself “hmmm I wonder who cheated on who?”

Screams “no trust” to me.

I have a few friends with joint FB accounts and it never occured to me that it might be because one had had an affair until now!

I try to avoid using the accounts to message as I don’t like not knowing who I am writing to.

Wow! My DH doesn't have an account and I have one that I haven't posted on for probably three years. I'd have no problem with using it as a joint account if he wanted to, if I was to post it would likely be things that we'd done together anyway, I really don't see what the issue is.