AIBU To keep my 2 year old home from Creche because of the Coronavirus?

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My 2 year old has congenital issues with her spine and bowels but they are not causing issues right now. She is waiting to see an ENT for grommets and I believe possibly her adenoids because she has sleep apnea. She is very small for her age, only 20lbs, and catches bugs all the time. I’m worried she could become quite sick if she catches it. She’s been going to Creche 3 days per week for a year. I’ve recently left my part time job but was keeping her in Creche for a bit of a break for myself and to get things done around the house. However with the outbreaks of Coronavirus I want to keep her at home with me for the time being. DH thinks I’m being silly as we’ll have to keep paying while she’s out as I do want her to go back when this ends and she could catch it somewhere else anyway. AIBU?

She could be out for months.

ridiculous!

Sapphiresalute, why do you think so?

Normally I’d be in the ridiculous camp but, given her existing health issues, I’m inclined to agree with you.

Ragged, yes that was another point my DH made but I’ve read that some experts believe it’s likely to peek in a few weeks. Of course they could be wrong or this could become an illness that circulates every year like the flu.

If you dont need her to be there then keep her home if you want! Its not like shes a child with no health issues and over compulsory school age

Yes I’d pull her out given her health issues and fact you don’t her to go at the moment

I probably would, given that you dont need the childcare. Have you already paid for it? I dont know if a creche is different to a nursery where you pay months in advance?

You’re being ridiculous

If I were in your situation I'd be thinking about that too. Go with what you feel comfortable with for your daughter. My LO is also vulnerable due to their health and I'm thinking about what we can do to help protect them further.

Coronavirus could be around for a few months.
If your child has been identified as being vulnerable then there’s no reason to keep her at home.

I would pull her out too. Too much unknown. How and when will it spread? How ill will children who catch it be? Given that u dont need the child care in the short term I dont see what's to lose by taking her out and waiting to see. Given she has under lying health conditions.

RhymingRabbit3 yeah I’ve paid and I’ll have to keep paying so she doesn’t lose her place.

Is it anywhere in your town? I would be thinking this too if my child had those health issues

Generally I would say YABU but given her health issues and that you don’t need the childcare then there’s no harm in removing her. But consider the cost of paying for her place or not having a place to go back to in the future

Missinginactiongeorge I’m in Ireland and the government won’t even release what counties the cases are in. It’s ridiculous, I’m all for privacy for those suffering but they can’t be identified if it’s released for example If there’s a case in Dublin. If I knew there were no cases around me then I would feel a lot better sending her.

According to information I’ve read published by the WHO and Unicef, the virus is much rarer for children (as in children are a LOT less likely to catch it to the extent where whole families have caught it but not the children) and when they do get it, the vast majority of the time it is very mild. However, the virus (for all ages) is risky for people with pre-existing health conditions and if your daughter has these then I would probably personally keep her home, if you believe that these pre-existing conditions that she has weaken her immune system (which would be what puts her at risk).

I think you are over reacting and I say that with a child in Creche in Ireland. There have been very few cases 18 I think In total. Pretty much all connected to skiing in Italy so I am assuming your Creche isn’t effected. They have closed any relevant schools and work places.

Can you speak to her doctors and find out if she is at increased risk? despite children being largely unaffected, some do have a higher risk. As an example, the CMO was asked about children with asthma. He said for the vast majority, it shouldn’t increase risk that much but there are a very small portion of children with severe asthma that are regularly hospitalised and they might need to think about social distancing.

Are you planning to not leave the house with her and limit contact with everyone outside of the home as well?

Unless you have a new job lined up, I’d lose the place. Seems little point in paying for childcare three days a week when you aren’t working. It’s an unnecessary expense.

Virus wise, unless she is in the at risk group then I’d be going about daily life as usual.

If you decide to take her out then it could be for months. For there to be any point you'll have to avoid other busy places; soft play, swimming, shopping centres, potentially libraries, hymns etc etc.
It's just not practical.