To ask when were the best days of your life?

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When were the best days of your life so far?

I'm 34, single and generally feeling nostalgic for my 20's when other people were single, carefree, footloose and fancy free.

I loved living in a houseshare in my 20's with other girls the same age, loved all the nights out at the weekends, spontaneous meetups, long chats on the phone in the evenings, regular parties, etc.

I think I'm just finding it hard to adjust to this next stage of life where everyone seems settled down.

Maybe it's partly that I'm single and don't have children, everyone else is just busy with those things. Even my friends who are childfree seem more boring now though! Is this all just part of growing up??

16-19 and 26-32.

I was more or less single for those bits, now I think of it!

For me it was 17-22 in the late 80’s/early 90’s I think. Sixth form, uni, independence, Saturday jobs, Hacienda, all-nighters and learning to drive. I had all my family, we were happy, and didn’t have a care in the world. Then when I was 22 my mum got terminal cancer and we lost her and everything changed.

I then spent the next 15 years in a bit of a wilderness, going out with an arsehole and not really having a life plan. On the plus side, it made me grow up fast. I had to care for a terminally ill parent for 18 months, and it was the making of me. Now I’m 47, single, no kids, and only six years younger than my mum was when she died. I am making every day count, I love my job, have a great group of friends, happy with my single status, have come to terms with never having kids, and have lots of plans to travel.

My 30's.
I had 3 babies in that time. Being mummy to 3 little ones was the happiest days of my life.

Since I've had children has been the best.

Right now. I'm about to turn 54, have rekindled a great career in my 50s and just registered for my Phd. Two children doing amazing courses in college, the third (who has ADHD) surpassing all our expectations.

I look back at my younger years and wonder how I survived. I feel incredibly lucky to be where I am today.

16-18 years were brilliant. Also did enjoy the first two years after m my children were born.

God I hated my teens! Right now is my favourite - early 30s, lovely DH, 2 beautiful babies (a baby and a toddler), both DH and I have decent jobs so money not a big problem, we're our own little family and building our own routines and traditions. It's brilliant. I also enjoyed my own childhood a lot. I'm quite nostalgic for my 90s childhood actually.

Loved being 17 and then the last couple of years with the babies (they are 3 and 1), so from 29-32.

First - age 13-17: I had a great group of friends at school and wasn’t too stressed yet (this changed when A-levels came along!), lots of house parties, first discovering alcohol, first kiss, no responsibilities, was great!

Uni wasn’t great for me as I was in an abusive relationship and had severe anxiety.

Second period - mid-twenties, for the reasons you describe OP. Living with the girls, lots of fun holidays, earning money, nobody yet settled down and boring etc.

I’m hopeful I’m about to enter my third phase as a newly-wed and hopefully having kids etc and progressing higher in my career. Although we are going to be poor for a while due to new house and wedding!

Now! Happy relationship, lovely 2yo DD and enjoying what I’m studying.

I was v mentally ill in my early twenties and then had DD at 25 so never really had the carefree twenties experience some people talk about

Late twenties to early thirties. I had all the pleasure of having young kids, as well as having grandparents still alive.

I’m looking forward to having grandchildren and having four generations again.

Now. I am late 50s, with a man I love most of the time and have finally given up employment to become a foster parent so we now share our lives with a 17 week old baby and a 3 year old. Fostering is tough, much harder than parenting because even the youngest babies have suffered so much trauma but it is so worthwhile.

My mid 30's. I'd somewhat got over being widowed. My eldest was getting the support that she needed in school. My other two were doing ok.

I had younger fuck buddies and my sex life was incredible. I had a couple of good friends who i used to go out with.

The best part of my life is always the one I'm experiencing now. Every stage has had terrible parts, but also moments of the purest happiness. There is always something fantastic just round the corner, and something to look for ward to.

Two for me too, in my teens, loved it.
Mid 20s. My son was older and I loved taking him out places, spending time with him. I mean I didnt realise how much I enjoyed it then but looking back, it was the best time.
Although I am finally starting to enjoy this stage of my life too. 😂

15-20 and then 22-24. Absolutely the best time. School college days and then my first coupon of years overseas

Now. I’m early 30s, recently single and have a toddler... But, I’m happy in my skin in a way I wasn’t when I was in my 20s, even after losing weight, and my self esteem is better than its ever been.

I think back to teens and whilst it was essentially care free I was always miserable about myself and had terrible anxiety.

I’m absolutely loving life at the moment. I’m 45 and my youngest child is 8.

My teens were full of insecurities.

My twenties were great but I didn’t have a lot of money and spent too much of it going out and drinking. And I was still insecure.

My 30s were amazing with getting married and all my children born...but not enough sleep.

Now I have a wonderful family, the kids are more independent and thankfully my parents are still in good health. And somehow I don’t seem to care what people think of me now...which seems to be a great part in my general happiness.

So to answer your question. My 40s are the best days of my life....so far :D

@Ponoka7 Younger fuck buddies sound great! Where did you find them?!

I guess around 9 years old?

Since then, I've suffered depression, had money troubles, had little social life/friends, been constantly overweight, had to support my DH who suffers from depression and anxiety (which is tough some days) and generally been a bit lonely and unhappy.

Just for the sheer excitement of it was when I was 18-23.

I was playing in a (not famous) band, being a DJ in a local club, and also being a roadie for a very big company who toured loads of very famous bands (although I was so far down the pecking order I very rarely got to meet any of them). I think it was the fun, the camaraderie, and the overall feeling at that age that music and bands was the whole meaning of life.

Also 34 and without a doubt, now.

I lost my Dad at 31 which is of course a huge sadness, but aside from dealing with grief, I am living the life I dreamed of in my 20s and couldn't make happen - two cats, self employed, variety of work, night owl routine, local and far flung friends, live by myself in my own home, rent a studio for my business, and maybe most importantly am happy and comfortable in my own skin and my status (single, childfree and very much not looking). I can't imagine going back to the faff of my 20s now and I hope this phase lasts a decent long time ☺️

18-22 for me. Happy, exhilarating carefree days mostly.
I had my first baby at 22 and it was magical but lots of financial and housing hardships made it really stressful. The actual having a new baby was a total joy.

20-25 or so. My teens were hell due to bullying and a crap school. By the time I was 20, I'd got some qualifications and a decent job, then I could start living my life, doing interesting things, joining clubs, relationships, etc - those few years really turned my life around after being suicidal most of my mid-late teen years.

My childhood to about 13 was brill. Teenage years were very unhappy, then I met my (then future) husband at 17 and it was very lovely for about the next 10-15 years before life stresses and responsibilities started to take their toll. I wish I could go back to those days!