to be in tears for no bloody reason after a school reunion

[MaidofMuswell]

spoiler - yes, yes I definitely am BU tbh, just don't understand what's happened.

I am genuinely happy with my life overall albeit pulled in a few too many directions but no more than any other working parent. I also really liked school at the time. Went back today for lunch reunion thing and all the people I never really spoke to because they were in different classes were lovely, lots of old teachers lovely, but a few people I thought of sort of not as friends but still being friendly with clearly didn't want to speak to me at all. No reason they should, just sort of surprised by it. It's daft - I feel genuinely pretty socially confident most of the time and no one was mean or anything like that, just clearly not that interested in speaking to me when I really did quite want to speak to them. Feel about 14 and really crap.

Don’t blame yourself - a lot of people are way more socially awkward now than they were in school. I know I am haha

Are you happy with your life now? That’s what counts x

Never ever go to these things!! They always make you feel crap

This is why I'd never ever go to a reunion. I couldn't handle it! Hope you're ok

It's always crap realising that people who you thought cared a bit about you, and who you cared about, actually don't give much of a fuck.

the people who are worth talking to from school will already be in touch with you. if you lost contact and neither tried to reestablish contact once through the selfcentredness of young-adulthood, it's best left that way.

I went to a reunion, to find a boy sat behind me in one lesson, and it seems because all the boys chatted to me and sat around my desk, he became included and made friends and it raised his self esteem, he thanked me for being his friend all those years ago .
He said I changed his life.

The thought of a School reunion fills me with an icy cold dread.

It’s weird actually - couple I thought had honestly blanked me texted me after - friendly enough to have been in touch over the years but not recently w kids etc - to say could we meet up. I think there’s something about the dynamic when they get with some of the others - anyway - bath and a sherry now and much happier :) x

Going to a school reunion is up there with my worst nightmares OP! Why would you do it it?! Consider it a lesson learnt Glad you’re feeling happier now

Been to a school reunion once and would never ever put myself through it again!
I was very shy and quiet at school but as I've got older I've got a lot more confidence and self esteem - however, when I went to the reunion, I reverted back to that introverted child with no self esteem and self worth.
I left as soon as I possibly could and havent kept in touch with anyone either.

The thought of a reunion makes me feel physically ill. I had a miserable time at school.
No way am I interested in what any of those people I haven't spoken to since we were 16 are doing now. I don't wish them ill, but they are not relevant to me in any way.

You're brave! I'd never go to a school reunion.
That bit of my past is staying right there.

Don't let them get to you!

I went to one once. I found I talked to people I hadn't been that friendly with at school and enjoyed their company but I still came away feeling strange. It brings up a whole load of emotions.