DH is away for a long weekend leaving me with x4 DC and it is going swimmingly. Starting to think I don't need him anymore (Lighthearted) AIBU?

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Just that really. Kids are happy (they've even done their teeth). I've got everything that need doing done without any of the usual stress. He was instrumental at the impregnation stage but now, years on, I'm not sure I really need him any more.

AIBU?

It's always calmer when my dh goes away. He can add to the stress bless him. It's the weird thing of I've got do it. Rather than resentment if I have to do it with him there. Iyswim

What a foolish thing to say before the weekend is over... have you never heard of "famous last words" or "tempting fate"???

Ha ha @SoupDragon you do have a point there

In my experience, it’s great all weekend then it all goes to shit precisely 5minutes before he walks through the door.

Thought this was just me!

Same here. 2 toddlers and a couple of dogs. It's been glorious with him away this weekend. Got all washing done and even kept on top of the dishes (which is "his" job and he makes a right song and dance about).

I loved it when DW went away, we called them "broccoli free weekends".

Same here, less stressful, and kids always seems calmer and well behaved.

Good lord same here OP! Kids are calmer, better behaved, and generally lovely. DH due back in about 2 hours, expecting all hell to break loose then!

DH not back till Tues so loads of time for things to go wrong of course because I am feeling all smug and pleased for myself. Even managed a bit of gentle decluttering this morning #metime

Yep. Everything SO much easier when Dh isn’t around. Never ceases to amaze me.
I think as a pp said, it’s because doing all the chores isn’t half as annoying if your partner isn’t relaxing watching tv when they could be helping.
Also.... a lot less shouting.
Hmmmm..

My DH spends a lot of time moaning when I ask him to help with stuff because that means he has to stop playing his guitar. So not only am I just getting on with things but I am not doing so accompanied by obsessive guitar playing. This whole LTB thing is feeling more and more appealing.

PS I have a vibrator so no worries on that front

Can you Kondo his guitar?

He's got three. And might notice.

But good idea 💡

When now xh and I separated, I had an overwhelming panic of "how will I manage without him?" Turned out after a few weeks of living alone with dc that it was actually quite easy. There was not one single thing that was 'his' around the house, kid stuff -me, life stuff - me, house stuff- me. And life was calmer, quieter and tidier. And as you point out, there are also ways around the other stuff

He's sending me jolly pictures from his weekend away blissfully ignorant that I'm slowly writing him out of the picture.

(Just got the kids to breathe fresh air at the park and all homework done. Go me!)

Well I agree, once my ex was gone he was never really missed by us. The home was much more chilled and relaxed without him.

Same. Mine used to go to work Monday morning and come home Friday night. Lovely.

Whenever my DH goes away, either DS or Ddog is explosively ill. Last time, DS had noro. Time before that, Ddog rolled in human shit and ate some and then puked it up in the living room. Time before that, Ddog had diarrhoea and DS had vomiting bug. Rest of the time they're fine. Still manage to keep the house tidier when he's away, mind.

Got rid of my DH and never been happier. I swear all the negative press re. Single Mothers is to keep women trapped in relationships which are more beneficial to the men.