To think friend is being a bit harsh?

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Long story short - friend said late last night they were going to gym class today, did I want to join. It's a chain across our city and I mentioned I'd be interested although had a night out planned.

After night out, messaged to say I'd still be keen and we caught up this morning. 11am, a few texts saying she'd message to confirm. Then a text saying could I do xxx class in an hour's time - no, as I still had to get ready and travel and it's an hour away. Mentioned that I hadn't realised they classes were mainly in the morning and could we do tomorrow eve/she should still go today.

Her response: Hmm I think I mentioned that last night? I'm still going to go. Next time can you let me know earlier as I missed the class I really wanted to do.

My reply: Sure and sorry you missed it. Maybe we should have had a specific class in mind as I would have been ready for that - let's aim for that next time.

I know its petty but really resent being told off like a child for something that I don't think was my fault?

For context we live about an hour away from each other and most places take an hour travel time (big city!) - there are branches dotted about this city.

I think I agree with her. Sorry

Fair point, I apologised (maybe a bit too profusely ) and all seems ok - feel bad now

I’m confused. If she said she’s still going to go, how did she miss the class she really wants to do?

Sounds like miscommunication. You both thought you had agreed on different things. It happens, don't feel bad about it. Agreeing on a certain class beforehand sounds like a good way of avoiding this in future.

Just go by yourself. She doesn’t sound like a fun experience. Some people exercise as a social thing others are seriously “keeping in shape” and time matters. Or she’s busy, either way. Just move on.

To be honest this looks like it has been resolved satisfactorily for both of you. There was a miscommunication that ended up not working out and you have made a plan as to what you will do for next time so it doesn’t happen again. I don’t think you have been profusely apologising, you have said sorry she missed it and suggested that you do something different next time so it doesn’t happen again and you each get a better result.

I can see her point, but it's just one of those things. If I was going on my own I'd aim for my favourite class, but I'd miss it if I was meeting a friend.

If I was doing something on my own I'd aim for as early as possible so the rest of the day was free. If I was meeting a friend, then no need.

FWIW I think she was right to raise it if she was unhappy and your response was a good resolution so neither of you were unreasonable

I think I’d side with your friend too, sorry.

I don’t think you got told off and she certainly wasn’t harsh, unless she said more than you’ve quoted here. It sounds as though neither of you were totally clear about timings, so next time you will be. Lesson learned for future.

I'm with your friend too, OP. And I don't think she told you off either, I think she was pretty measured.

I am v confused. Maybe I'm being thick?

Why would you agree to a class an hour away?