I met this friend in 2014 and we haven’t ever been really really close but we enjoyed each other’s company.. life got in the way and the last couple years she’s become more and more reclusive. Her son was diagnosed with high functioning Autism and that hit her hard even though she perused the diagnosis and kind of knew it was coming. He’s 11.
I understood why she kind of went into herself around that time and I made sure to reach out to her. Anyways I would respond to her wattsapp and she 9/10 would never actually respond to mine. This went on and on. I popped into see her after my wedding and during my visit she made a dig about my husbands weight in his suit and also told me ‘ you are defensive ‘ not because I said anything back about the comments on my husbands weight but she just put that out there to me in a different convo.
I left her home feeling not as comfortable as I had done previously. Fast forward to the same lack of contact, leaving me message but never responding to mine ( not keeping any convo going ) my few suggestions to meet for a catch up never coming to anything she messages me out the blue and in this voice mail says ‘ you are stubborn’
Erm... it’s kinda getting to the stage I’m thinking I’ve seen you twice in 18 months, you don’t keep any level of friendship going and what’s with the comments ? Then I think is she right ? If I’m offended am I then defensive ?
It’s crazy right ? She’s about 15 years older than me and is a good person. I believe her to be I just don’t know how to react to this. I’m all for honesty but it’s like me going to see her for the first time in a long time and staying ‘ oh your quite aren’t you? ‘I just WOULDNT even if I thought it. I’m just not that rude
So is she a twat it would I be a twat to take offence to this little digs / lack of effort to actually keep the friendship alive