Been with partner 18mnths. Have posted lots about out relationship and how it's affected by his mh stuff. He can become like a stranger to me, really unkind behaviour, dismissive and just odd. This has meant during the course of our relationship I've paid for holidays and had to go alone, taken a/l to do stuff together that has been wasted because he vanishes, have had numerous losses....
Now when he's at his best he is very lovely and we are extremely kind and generous to each other no problems.
Currently he isn't great, gradual decline since start of year and now have lost him completely. He is unrecognisable. I know if challenged he would be unkind.
So he picked something up for me the other day, not unusual, he offered, it was 30 quid. I said I'd no cash would give him it when I see him next (couple of days), he looked annoyed, I said look if it's desperate (it's not a money issue, it's where his head is at, no love for me) I'll transfer it. He later texted me his bank details no chat just bank details like some gumtree deal....
Not a peep since. Behaviour not unusual for him when ill but I'm so fed up with it all I feel like not transferring it in light of all the losses I've had to swallow. But then I feel perhaps transfer it as its the right thing to do...
It's so not about the money 
it's probably about being so frustrated having to do the 'right' thing all the time around his mh. Argh.... So tired of it.
Aibu?? Should I just transfer it and be done with it. Its the right thing to do I know... But I can't remember the last time HE did the right thing 