'What's wrong with your face?'

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AIBU to be upset my this comment? My mum just came round and I have no makeup on as I'm going out later and wanted to put it on fresh. When I answered the door to her this is the first thing she said to me. My skin is blotchy at the moment and I guess she's not used to seeing me without makeup. But I'm really upset by her comment! She realised immediately that she'd upset me and apologised.

She apologised. Let it go

Maybe she saw the blotches and thought you’d had an allergic reaction or you weren’t feeling well? Doesn’t sound like she was deliberately trying to upset you.

Why were you upset?

Did you think she was being insincere?

You had a blotchy face. Someone said "what's wrong with your face"
It was your Mum, not somebody pointing and laughing on the street.

Sounds like she was, if this makes sense, asking about the blotches, not about your face in general.

I wear no make up so people's expectations can't be lowered regarding my appearance

YABU, it was your mum and she apologised immediately that she saw she'd upset you.
I don't think she deliberately said it to be nasty, just a mum concerned about her daughter

Maybe I'm a bit over sensitive about my skin as it's been bad for months after having great skin all my life. I used to go without makeup all the time but now I don't like to. Bought some new anti redness moisturiser which I'm hoping will help.

I say this to my dd frequently. But she inherited resting bitch face from me.

She wasnt trying to horrible.

Sounds like she genuinely thought there was something wrong, with your face.

It may have come out wrong but she has apologised.

Surely you can think of time where you have blurted something out or it's been taken in the wrong way.

My friend works at a preschool and when she went in without make up all the little kids were asking her what was wrong with her face!

This is why I don’t wear much make up day to day. I like people to be surprised how nice I look with make up rather than how bad I look without it.

I’m sure your mum didn’t mean it nastily, I’d let it go.

Ok thanks people. Looks like I need to get some perspective!

My Dad did the same to me after he popped over when I'd just got back from swimming. I just said there nothing wrong it's just my face!

It did bother me a bit but then like you OP I have redness in my skin and occasional blotches which I cover up with make up. He apologised and just said he was just making sure I was ok.

I would love to go make up free to work and things like that but in the past when I have done it I got asked all day if I was ok as everyone thought I was ill. 🤦‍♂️

I doubt she meant any harm, she knows what you look like, it was probably the blotching.
On the rare occasion I don't wear makeup in work, colleague's ask am I not well.

It is only because people are use to seeing your made up face.
After a week of no makeup no one will comment it'll just be the face they recognise.

You said it yourself you had good skin before, she sounds concerned not having a dig. Let it gooooo!!!

She probably didn’t mean offence. So let this go and if a stranger asks tell them it’s leprosy.

Your face is red and blotchy, your mother knows you’ve had great skin all your life. What do you think she should do, say nothing and sit and quietly wonder? For most mother daughters if their face changed drastically they would ask the question. It’s not meant to cause offence. It’s said out of concern.