AIBU to give neighbours a taste of what they expect me to tolerate?

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DH and I work full time and are up at 6am Mon-Fri.
My DH and our 2 DDs (4 and 7) live in a semi-detached house which has been built without our stairs forming the 'barrier', iyswim. Our bedroom is next to their bathroom; my DDs' room is next to their younger child's (18) room.
Neighbours have 2 adult (18 and 20-something) children living with them.
Their "children" bang doors into the early hours, play Youtube stuff at a volume that can be heard clearly in our rooms, play some sort of Call of Duty style war game so we can hear the bangs and groans and explosions... this frequently goes on until 2am. We can fall asleep, but then are woken up repeatedly throughout the night.
I approached the neighbours some months ago and explained that we could hear their noises and were being woken up, and to ask if they could be quieter past around 10pm. They were lovely, but nothing changed.
I went around again last week to ask again if they could be quieter. This time I was received a bit differently, with the father saying he couldn't "tell people what to do". One night last week, the noises were so loud that I went around at 1am to ask them to be quiet. The 20-something adult child answered the door, said they had all been asleep (!) and told me to get away from the doorway or they would call the police.
Only one of them works; the others seem to mope around in dressing gowns all day when they eventually do get up. Would IBU to leave for work on Monday having turned my sound system on loud and directed at their walls from 6am?

Get a massive sub woofer and play brown noise through the wall....!!! Unfortunately people like this won’t change, I lived below a knob and his family who thought them being noisy was ok but I wasn’t allowed. I moved in the end

There are some wonderful genre of music out there. I do love bagpipe music while I'm getting ready for work....

I successfully dealt with a selfish neighbour a couple of years ago with a (genuine) favourite CD of Gregorian Chanting. They were loudly discussing anal sex outside at 2am in the middle of summer and the 9 year old got woken up and needed explaining.
The following morning, on went the chant CD and when they complained, I simply said that I hoped they were not discriminating against me due to my religion.

Might also have asked them to explain anal sex to me as I had never heard of it as I grew up in an ultra religious community.

They never did it again.😀

Also, we didnt have a for sale sign put up, i didnt want to risk the neighbours realising when we had viewings incase they decided to start being knobs on purpose!

Do it. I did classical music - full blast on a pair of selfish 20 year olds. Left it on all night and went and slept in my car ..... no problems and they piped down afterwards.
Solicitor letter and council enforcement had achieved nothing except make them cause greater noise.

Another one saying don't put a for sale sign up. Just tell your EA that you don't want a board - lots of people don't have them.

I wouldn't give the neighbours any hint that you are trying to move away.

I think it's worth remembering that the parents in this situation probably don't want their DC to be carrying on like this either and may be at the end of their tether. I think you should talk to the adult DC at a reasonable hour of day when their parents aren't there. ETreat them with the utmost respect yet explain the difficulty it is causing you and ask them what their solutions are. Hopefully they will come up with headphones at the very least. I think an adult conversation with you will work better than their parents nagging them to keep the noise down because of the neighbours.

Wherever it is you play, make sure it's on loop. My old neighbour was so noisy all of the time and she went out once leaving a shite dance song on loop. I was working from home that day and it was like death by a thousand cuts. It actually gave me the thousand yard stare after several hours.

Our cuntish neighbours behave like this since we had our extension built.

Not quite so bad but the teenage daughter plays music against my dd's bedroom wall pretty much every night at bed time.

I have blasted Mr tumble /hokey pokey back full blast on our Sonos player. I have also gone out and left it on all day.

Unfortunately our entire house smoke alarms go off in the early morning some times as well

They do shift work so I may find myself cutting the hedge very early in the morning just to piss them off.

I also burn a lot of wet leaves/garden easy whenever her wsshing is in the garden.

I'm not doing anything formal as I plan to move next year.

Yes I have thought that. I won't have a board either.

I did exactly that when my jobless neighbours got in the habit of arguing loudly through the night and sleeping half the day. It worked.

If you look on YouTube, there is a song called Pink Fluffy Unicorns Dancing on Rainbows. Some sick fuck has a ten hour version on there perfect for torturing neighbours.

Thomas the Tank Engine theme on a loop. Eight hours should do it.

Move house if and when you can. Never worth getting into battles with neighbours. Just leave.

@mrsbyers Actually 7am is not too early! The law states that the reasonable hours are 7am to 11pm

I feel your pain op. We can hear ndn TV through the wall in our bedroom. They sometimes watch tv or play computer games until the early hours. Sometimes it's so loud that we can hear it get clearly. It's only disturbing occasionally, maybe a couple of times a month, so we tolerate it. I'm too chicken to say anything, just in case they react badly.

my mum did that once.....barry manilows 'mandy' on repeat

Have you thought of ringing the police?

Totally feel your pain OP. We had similar. Tried to talk reasonably and were met with threats. They were pretty awful people and all of the street struggled with their anti social behaviour. Tyres let down when we politely asked them to keep the noise of their mid-week, 2am party down...Long story so won’t expand but our experience of going through council and police was pretty rubbish. One community police officer was great but when she handed it over to the qualified police officer he basically made it far worse.

In the end they moved - otherwise we would have.

We did some scraping of wallpaper at 7am and loved hearing them get frustrated and start banging on the wall. But, it didn’t change their behaviour. Did cheer us up and give us a sense of power back as we were feeling very powerless.

If they are grown up children hopefully they will move out soon. Until then, you could get those ear plugs that are moulded to your ears or some noise cancelling headphones (that was going to be our solution until we moved - but then they moved thank god!).

If you do decide to make noise in the morning make it 7am or after. The laws about excessive noise apply 11pm to 7am I think.

Good luck. It feels like such an intrusion. I really feel for you.

Another thought.Move you child to a room away from their wall Get a recording of a baby crying and when they start to make a noise play this back to them,speaker as near to the wall as you can.You wake up anyway but this may make them crack and they can't complain about a baby crying if their noise wakes it.

We had neighbours like this. They would play ridiculously loud music for hours on end. We had asked them to turn it down or just keep it to daylight hours. Despite this they continued. We decided to get our own back. I put "Startrekking" on repeat and put my amp next to the wall. DP and I went out for the day.

We never heard their music again :)

As has already been pointed out you do have legal rights via your neighbours landlord or the council. I wouldn’t be opposed to a 5am opera at full blast though on a day you don’t have to work!

Yeah, I had similar inconsiderate neighbours. Detached houses with my carport between our two houses. It made a bit of an echo box. After a night of ongoing noise, some how, no idea what happened , my car alarm went off in the wee hours (6am ish). I kept trying to turn it off but whoops, not successful. Took me about 5 mins to get it off. I'd succeed but then it would start again.

Different neighbours, again detached houses. Sounded like a herd of elephants lived over there, you could hear every step they took from inside my place. Anyway, they were noisy. I'm an early riser, always have been. It wasn't unusual after a night of their noise making for my mower to be left running full throttle under their bedroom windows while I picked debris off the grass. Then that wonderful moving away just to come back again - that breath of relief when you think the noise is gone, but no, it's back.

I've moved into units on a main road. It's blissfully quiet. There seems to be very good insulation between the units and I never hear my neighbours. One apologised for the noise from her and I husband arguing and I hadn't heard a thing.

Celine Dixon’s ‘My Heart will go on’ is a beautiful song to listen to for 8 hours.

Omg I think you have our neighbours! The exact same issue but THREE adult children and two yappy dogs... that apparently NEED to be let out at 12pm..5am... to bark. Add in lots of cars and motor bikes.

If their electric meter is external there is a master fuse that can be removed to kill all power to the house.
Yes, not really legal, but if needs must...….