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Help... work issue

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Toooldfornonsense · 07/03/2020 14:37

More of a WWYD but wanted to add this to get a better response...

Left a job a 18 months ago for a step up. Was told I’d have a particular job in the area I wanted but initially I’d be setting up said area. All good. There was an agreement that I’d have a stepped entry into the end job with support which unfortunately hasn’t happened.

The company is really good in many ways but I feel anxious constantly when going into work. I’ve never suffered from this previously and it really concerns me. I have two kids under 10 and I’m finding annual leave means I’m checking emails and sorting stuff out for work.

The support I was supposed to have has moved into a different area and I now feel like I have no idea what I’m doing other than winging it most days on stuff other than people management. I’m doing well at that and my team given good feedback.

I’ve looked for other jobs and have found one at a previous employer and have had an offer. The pay would be slightly under what I left on. I attempted to give my notice in last week and have been asked to reconsider and they have said I can have a pay rise. If I leave the difference would be £10k a year...

No one needs to tell me I’m really lucky to have this dilemma as there are people out there on minimum wage or are struggling but I genuinely don’t know what to do. Current job have offered to help me find the role I’d feel comfortable in and are very engaged.

I’ve also now been told that my counterpart is currently struggling (personal issues I don’t want to disclose) but it means it’s only me that knows how to run a certain area of the business.

Would you go or stay?

OP posts:
swingofthings · 07/03/2020 14:54

For me it would be totally dependent on whether I actually needed the £10k extra to have the life I want, ie. if taking the lower paid less stressed job means added stress wondering how you'll pay the bills, or pay for your kids to go on school trips etc..., then I would go for the better pay, especially as they are clearly very happy with your work for them to offer it.

If however the £10k would only be extra money to put into a saving, or pay for treats you and your kids don't really need, and having a less stressful job will bring much more happiness in your home life, than I'd go for the old employer, although do take into consideration that things could have changed there in the time you've been away.

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