My sister met a new man 3 weeks ago. Things have been going really fast with him (already posted about it on relationships as he is literally a waving red flag!) by 2 weeks he had told her he loved her??! Wanted her to meet his mum, wanted to meet our mum, said that he will love her forever, and that if they end it will be because of her not him, because he would never end it. They have “broken up” twice since they’ve known each other.
The thing is she is constantly saying she is going to end it, saying that he’s having a go at her, etc. On Friday she called to say it’s “done” because he was demanding to know about her past and trying to make out that he had some ‘dirt’ on her. She thinks he was just making it up because he is insecure because his ex cheated on him apparently. They were due to go to the cinema yesterday but she said she isn’t going anymore because he was being rude to her. later she messages me to tell me she’s at his house and he screamed in her face and she wants to get away from him because she thinks he is mentally unwell. 2 hours later she’s messaging to say she’s at the cinema with him! If I say anything disapproving I get told I’m “negative” and she gets defensive. But why bad mouth him to me and get annoyed if I say anything bad about him? I’ve tried to not talk about him to her if she brings him up I try to change the conversation so I don’t get accused of being negative, but she then says “you really don’t like talking about him do you” Aibu to say you can’t bad mouth someone then expect people to not form negative opinions of them? WIBU to tell her to stop complaining about him? It’s been 3 weeks! She calls me to talk about him constantly.