TikTok trend has the potential to be harmful.

[cherryblossomgin]

vm.tiktok.com/gVyH2a/

Just wanted to warn people that the real fairy challenge seems to be gaining popularity. In the video I linked she adjusts something around her neck. I've seen a few kids copying the trend on the FYP.

I have been looking at tik tok lately and have been quite shocked at the general vibe around women. Sadly, its mostly girls doing this - but lots of talk about their boyfriend choking them during sex and submissive sex, feigning sex positions etc..really quite nasty.

it's not TikTok as such that is the problem. It is the lack of discussion in homes and schools about not doing stupid stuff just because it's on the internet. If it's not TikTok it's another platform.

I don't know how many discussions my parents had with my daft brother over the years about "just because your friends do xxx...". It's the same thing on an admittedly much bigger scale.

Its not just kids though, its young women. What on earth is all of this abuse sex about? And the emphasis on arses...I even saw lots of posts about the whole thing with these huge bums and not having to look at faces etc. While I'm all good for variety, woo hoo, its the attitude to women and BY women themselves that is scary.

Has anyone seen the "my face when" themed posts?

Eventually she admitted it was this. A TikTok challenge basically asking them to grab their chins as hard as they possibly can the girl in the video

Can I just say, I'm 38 and this was a thing when I was at secondary school. It was 'in' to walk around with a bruise on your chin caused by grabbing it as hard as you could, the only difference was that we didn't film it because we didn't have mobile phones with cameras.

This trend was replaced by the "chicken scratch" which was where you use a coin to scratch off some skin in your forearm to make a chicken scratch.

Conclusion: teenagers have always been a bit daft.

I think TikTok should be 18+. A lot adult humour and 'trends' that would not be appropriate for impressionable youths. There are so many 14/15 year olds on there dancing in skimpy clothes because they don't know any better, with creepy men lurking in the comments. It's absolutely rife and disgusting.

I didn't know what "Eiffel towering" was until TikTok and I'm in my 50's

At 15? She grabbed her chin so hard it bruised because someone on the internet said to

This one is true my DC showed me the original videos

I'm always amazed at parents who think of the internet as something that happens in the privacy of their home, instead of it being a public space.

My DD is the only one (yes literally only one) out of her class of 30 Age 10-11 year olds who doesn’t not have this on her phone. It’s horrid for her and she is completely left out. She begs every day. It’s really not as easy as it seems

@cherryblossomgin

https://vm.tiktok.com/gVyH2a/

I do like the chickens in the tree. But WTAF is that girl doing to her eyelashes???!!!

If it's not TikTok it's another platform
Yes and no. TikTok is notorious because of the lack of safeguarding, the immediacy, the fact it's known to be used for grooming and by paedophiles.
All social media has issues but TikTok has more than most.

You can ban TT but another will take its place. It's inevitable at this stage.

Sadly this is true.

It wasn't that long ago that kids were swallowing washing capsules whole and filming it (Dawn capsules maybe?). And then the ones where youths downed bottles of Jack Daniels etc.

DD used this platform when it was still musical.ly

There were certainly privacy restrictions then. Did they get loosened/removed with the takeover?

DD is 10 and has it. She uses it to make videos of her schleich model horses and of our pets. She does the occasional collage of her friends and watches videos of other girls her age riding their ponies. She knows to immediately skip anything unsuitable she stumbles across. These things are here to stay so I think it's better to teach responsible use rather than wait to they are sneaking to use it behind your back. Dd uses her phone either in the living room with me or in the car sitting beside me though, she never goes off to use it and I do trust her to use it sensibly. I'm not sure I'll be able to take the same approach with DD2 who is a bit more of a rebel.

@Ethelswith there are the same privacy restrictions as with any other SM app, limiting audience to friends who you have approved etc ...

@Time2change2 My dd is one of the very few in her year group not to have it. I know it’s hard. But both DH and I work in areas related to safeguarding and have seen things most parents don’t know about, and our approach is based on what we know. FWIW, I think you’re doing the right thing and that, long term, it will pay off. For us, not allowing WhatsApp has already meant dd has been well out of some issues with school friends that ended up having to be dealt with by school.

I watch TikTok for the 30-60 mins before sleep to wipe my mind of the real world.

I am 47 years old.

I am pretty horrified kids are using it to watch the same stuff as me, I just swipe through the front page so all random.

There is another big trend at the moment where girls are talking about 'oh I still have to cut mine once a month' ' oh I'm lucky I have mine removed at birth' it is all a wind up of purse, but for any impressionable person it would leave you thinking wtf do I not understand about my body. It does kind of imply it's vulva related. It is all done in a way to make you think oh what is this, I don't know. Very very confusing for girls to see.

There is also currently lots of stuff on doms, and so much about sex. It imo is a totally inappropriate place free reign for kids.

I assume those how allow their kids on it are only allowed to look at certain accounts not the home page any accounts.

Yes there are lots of fluffy puppies (my main joy) but these are totally interspersed with people talking about adult themes.

And yes I've seen the bruise thing, a lot of people posting it.

What's the expression? Is art life or is life art? In the sense that all this nasty misogynistic stuff is a reflection of our world, the underbelly, the things men want to see and get women approval. I can't get my head around a world where a 13 year old girl can watch tiktok and Instagram, watch women being reduced and conceptualised to horrible little fetish dolls, but someone who says men have penises is called transphobic. What a weird, fucked up world.

Tiktok is basically Chinese spyware. I'm not sure why anyone, child or adult, would have it on there phone.

www.forbes.com/sites/enriquedans/2020/06/28/tiktok-beneath-its-fun-exterior-lies-a-sinisterpurpose/

*their!

I can't stand any of this stuff - tik tok, Facebook, Instagram. All awful in different ways imo.

It's like, living in Newcastle and allowing your 7yo to go down to London alone, so they can go and play in the Lego store, and they don't even need need to let you know they've gone...

They'll be fine, surely? Won't get lost. Won't be in any danger! I mean they're just going to get some Lego....

if I get pressure from my DD because ‘friends’ say they won’t be friends with her for not having it (heard of this happening a fair bit), I will remind her how little their parents must care about them to allow it. Incredible.

I know this was posted a while ago, but I can't help but think it's a bit misjudged.