Drunk work friend

[katieak]

So not really an AIBU but more of a WWYD.

I have a colleague / work friend. We started as colleagues with me in a supervisor role but have developed a friendship in that we get on very well, chat about life, dont see each other really out of work but will often spend time together at work events cos we like each other's company.

In certain work social situations she has a tendency to drink a bit too much. That's fine, I'm not the police, but occasionally it becomes a little cringe from a work point of view as it isn't reduced around important business contacts. She is an ok drunk in that she is friendly and happy but can get loud and sweary. Amongst friends that's fine but not really appropriate when networking.

I don't want her to do anything daft but also don't want to be on her back. Not sure if I take the supervisor role and tell her it's not ok but also don't want to be a dick. She's a nice girl and don't want to hurt her feelings. Help?!

If it isn't reduced around important business contacts then you need to do your job as her supervisor and tell her, if you think it affects the company.

^ What Worra said

Socially, she can do what she likes.
But if she’s taking it too far around clients too, that’s on the company’s head and really isn’t professional. You need to have a chat following whatever your company’s procedure is. Whether that’s going in with concern, or drug and alcohol testing, or whatever.

A woman I work with has just had a talking-to from her boss about her behaviour at work events (namely drinking too much and throwing herself at senior, married men). Better this woman gets a gentle nudge from you than a bollocking from the boss.

Thanks stillcoughing, that's a good point. I've been hesitant because I'm not her boss but that makes sense.